Do any of you have a large age gap between children?

Question

How old were you when you got pregnant for the last time?

How is motherhood when you aren't in you 20's or early 30's?

Do you advise it?

Answer 1

Motherhood is great when you are older! There are certainly advantages to being young and full of endless energy but, I was 34 when my first was born and 40 when my second was born. I am now 53 and I do have times when I think about being nearly 60 when my kid graduates from high school and not thinking positively about that but, I wouldn't trade my kids or my life style for anything in the world. I also always knew I wanted kids and there's no question that I just wasn't ready to have them in my 20's. I had a great time being single and taking care of myself and having fun and traveling and earning a living and doing all the things i think people in their 20's can do. I know now that I can hope to have more healthy and fun years after my kids are grown -- but I sure am glad I had those years to fool around before having kids. And I am absolutely joyous that I have my kids.

Answer 2

My mom had me at 20, I am 22 years old now. She has a 14 year old and a 1 year old too. She is pregnant again! So there is a 21 year age gap between me and my step sister! Talk about age gap. My mom when pregnant with my stepsister encountered a lot of health issues ranging from gestational diabetes to carpal tunnel. She is a healthy older women so figured pregnancy would be easy for her but it really took its toll. She had to see a high risk OB her entire pregnancy due to placenta problems that the OB diagnosed as age related. My mother had thought that by being older, being finically stable and generally having a better quality of life that things would just automatically be easier. Once she had the baby it took her nearly 5 months to heal properly due to age related problems. Then she was constantly exhausted! It has only been one problem after another. When she found out she was pregnant again she nearly died. She doesn't know what to do because she doesn't want to deal with all the turmoil.

Answer 3

from the other end of the spectrum.

I would not consider myself an oops baby, after all, mom and dad tried long and hard to conceive me. . . . (or so I was told). They were both in their early 40's when I was born, and my older brother 18.  

Shortly there after, dad died. I was 3. My mom, now widowed with a baby on the hip and a small auto body business to run. (of course this can happen be it young or old)  My early years involved witnessing my mom literally work herself nearly to death, and defiantly into illness! ! ! !

In my early twenties, Married now myself with 2 babies, I needed to take care of my aging mother, what most people get to put off until they are well into their 40's I was dealing with way too young. . . . . cancer and all that comes with in . . . .

Round #1 breast.

Round #2 brain

Round #3 blood & bone

On my 29th Birthday. . . . . I had to bury my mom. We were best friends, my mom and I. I had so much left to share with her. She was the best woman I had even and will ever know.

I believe we were as close as we were because of life’s lessons and trials. We were as close as we were because she was older and far more mature when I came along. What I have learned along the way is that life is often too short - unexpected - challenging - tragic and yet joyful, loving, and so very precious.

Age is only a number. What is important is that you love your children, you love your parents. Today is, tomorrow may only be.

Parenting is only as good as the parent - and this age thing, not so important. Kids are conceived the same - delivered the same - etc. . . . be it if the parents are in their 20's - 30's 40's or more.

Answer 4

My oldest is 19 years old.  My youngest is 9 1/2 months.  I'm a much better mother now than when I was 22 and had my first.  I wasn't bad before, I just have more patience, understanding, knowledge, and confidence.  Now, I'm wanting to adopt again (my oldest-I gave birth to, the youngest is adopted).  I'd like a sibling group of 3.