Do any of you know aunts/uncles/grandparents who give gifts and money to their nieces and grandkids?

Question

I got into an arguement with my mother about my aunts/uncles/grandparents and how none of them gave me gifts, money, never really got to know me, some don't even know my name. My mother of course is close to her brothers and sisters but she didn't raise me to be close to family. I'm 24, I'm not close to my aunts and uncles because I felt they never took the chance to know me, I told my mother why and she said she doesn't know any family that ever gave gifts or money, I said I did. Its not about giving but its one way that people show they care and love along with trying to get to know you. I have a niece and I give to her all the time and buy her things, I don't wait until a certain holiday or graduation, I get to know her and buy for her, that was never done for me. I envied my friends growing up and how their relatives would take them out shopping, give them things as kids randomly and still do. Do any of you know relatives who give and show love to their nieces and granddaughters?

Answer 1

Haha... I ran into this same thing. My girlfriend's grandmother just gave her $5000 for a graduation present.

I guess it all depends on how close and wealthy your family is. I know ninety percent of my family is rich and I get nothing (of course i'm a male). My extended family shows their love by just talking and hanging out. We all go to dinner occasionally and I truthfully can't complain.

It could also probably be a female thing (don't get me wrong, i'm not a chauvenist), but I know that I couldn't afford to get a nephew or grandson anything I would WANT to get him. I'd get him something practical like tools or something. The clothing shopping sprees and stuff is just there to BUY LOVE.

I think we have it better. We don't feel obligated to love people.

This probably didn't help much, but hey.

Answer 2

Yes, I'm an aunt and I give gifts and money etc to my nieces and nephews.

I'm in the same boat as your relatives - my nieces and nephews are being raised not to be close to me.

Sending them cards, money and gifts is the only way I have to keep in touch with them and let them know I'm still here.

My own great-aunt is 87, and still sends me cards and money, even though I'm in my 30s.

Answer 3

I get presents for christmas and my birthday, but otherwise I don't. But I don't care, as long as I get to be with them that's fine. It's better when they are with you then that they just give you money. But I know how you mean.

My uncles, that I actually know, (both from my mothers side) spend time with me and talk to me about nothing and everything. I wouldn't even care if they wouldn't give me presents for special occasions, but they do and I am VERY grateful of that. =) My grandparents it's the same thing with. My aunt(from my dads side) I know kida well and she also gives me presents sometimes, but the other relatives from dad's side I don't becasue I don't know them and that's fine by me.

My friend gets presents from her grandparents even if there's no special occasion, but I can guess that they have more money.