Do birth mothers and fathers still think about the child they gave up 27 years ago?

Question

Just wondering if my birth parents would still think of me at all. I was adopted at 3 days old as they were too young (15 i think). I'm now 27 years old and have never had any contact with them.

Answer 1

Yes. The pain of losing a child through adoption is to me worse than death. There's no closure. No one to talk to. You don't know what's happened to your child. You didn't really want to do it, but for whatever reason, you did. You have not been forgotten. You are loved by people you don't even know. Don't be afraid to search. I'm waiting for my daughter....

Best wishes.

Answer 2

I'm sure they do, every birthday, every Chrismas, they cry for you and wonder where you are and are you safe. They may be afraid to contact you, because they gave you up and they might think they are hated or they might believe what they were told, that they could never find you and you could never find them. I can say this because this is how I felt for 30 years before I found my bdaughter in 2001.

Answer 3

Yep,I gave up my baby 27 years ago and have never forgotten and never will.

Answer 4

Yes.  My mom thinks of my half brother, especially on his birthday.  He is about to turn 36.  They have never had contact, and unless he finds her, they never will.

I agree with the others who suggested that you consider searching.  You never know what you're missing.

Answer 5

I am sure they do think of their babies every birth - day and mothers day ...Its so sad when you really think about it.. have you tried to find them ?

Answer 6

I don't think any woman could bring a child into this world and ever stop thinking about him/her.  I am of the belief that adoption is the greatest act of love a too young parent can give their child.

Answer 7

Oh yes. They probably didn't go a day without thinking of you. It would absolutely break my heart to give up my babies. You never forget your children, even if you did what you thought was right & better for them.

Answer 8

i wonder the same, i am 26, born 2 days before christmas.  my parents were 19 and 26.  that is all i know about them.  good luck if you decide to persue.

Answer 9

I am sure that they do think of their babies.  I know that I would.  As an adoptive Mom I say a prayer for the birth parents every year on my kids birthdays and thank them for the most important decision they will ever have to make in their lives.  It is truly a very loving, unselfish decision.  It takes a special person to look beyond themselves and think of the child.  Good luck.  I know this isn't what you were asking but I hope it helps a little.

Have you tried a search?   I hope life is good to you.

Answer 10

I met my firstmom last year after over thirty years of separation.  The first thing she told me was that she has always loved me and that not a single day has passed since I came into the world that she hasn't thought of me.

And I believe her.

The minute she told me this, it was like a lifetime of anger and resentment I had been holding in just melted away.  It has made a huge difference in my life and the way I see the world.

I'm not saying that this is true for everyone but that's the way it has been for me.

Answer 11

Parents always have that on there mind.

Its not something you can just erase.

Having a child and putting it up for adoption is a very emotional time in someones life. But they do it out of love.

There are ways you can find your biological parents it is a long road but at the end most of the time it works out well.

A child has a bond with there mother more than anything in the wold no mater how old the mother was when having there child.

Answer 12

of course birth parents think about the child they have given up.I gave my daughter up for adoption 30 years ago and she is always in my thoughts.I wonder what she looks like and if she looks like the brother and sister that she has and,hopefully one day,will meet.I also think about the son i lost when he was born and feel the same amount of love for them as I do for the children and grandchildren that I have with me now.Parents never forget their children whether they are with them or not regardless of how long they had them with them.I hope that one day you do get the chance to find this out for yourself by meeting at least one of your birthparents

Answer 13

They will wonder about you until the day they die! Especially your mother.

Answer 14

I work with a guy who did not have a choose in the matter it was in the 70s' now for the past 2 years he has been searching for her It hurts him cause he missed his child growing up it is vary sad but yes they think about them maybe you should look for them they may be looking for you