Do cancer's have self esteem problems??

Question

do cancer's have self esteem problems??

well im a cancer and im weird when it comes to my self esteem

one day ill think im one of the prettiest girls and another day i will feel sorry for myself for being so ugly..

its like im always looking to look perfect. and i look in the mirrior 24/7

im always thinking about what other people think i look like

and i care SOOO much about what other peole think of me

i could have the highest self esteem but if someone says im ugly it all comes crashing down and i start to see what they see..

and people are always saying how i dont look like my pictures.. and theyre really pretty pictures so its just kind of like, an insult..

and im going to be with my boyfriend next week (scorpio) and im just soo terrified he's gonna think im ugly..

Answer 1

hi auna,

im a cancer and i am also somewhat affected by what people say and i have days when i think im ugly, even though i do get lots of compliments and i know im not really. Cancers can have a hard time deciding where they stand. Cancer is the most modest sign, even if cancer has a body like venus de milo, a face like bridget bardot, the brains of einstein they still never feel secure enough, no matter how good they are. Also, because they are so sensitive they can see other peoples points of view and pick up vibes like a sponge, and when someone is trying to put them down, because cancer would never do that to someone else, they assume the person is telling the truth when actualy a lot of other signs will put people down for selfish reasons with no actual truth involved and they might say comments like 'you don't look like you' in the photo, because they are jealous that you look really good in the photo, and that you can look that good, and its not to sy you are ugly in real life - the truth is that is a typical jealous thing to say. I'm not sure how old you are, but it gets better with age :)

when i was around 13-17 i was so insecure and ALWAYS comparing myself to others. But now i am 19 i realise i need to put my appearance into perspective, especially since people can't give me compliments all the time to reasure me. Just look at it like this: if i was possibly ugly then i wouldnt have had half the oppurtunities i have had, attracted half the people i have.. and i know the truth is there, my appearance is fine and i should enhance it by confidence :)

And even if you feel you dont attract people or what not, you ALWAYS have to keep in mind, and you will realise this when you grow older, that personality can make or break someones looks. If you are a sweet person who has inner confidence (and yes it is posible for cancers to gain this) and you rise above feeling jealous then other people will start being attracted to your personality and it will make the way you look good no matter how you look. I have met not amazingly attractive people but then when i got to know them i fell in love with them because of their personlities! don't worry cancer, your scorpio boyfriend will NOT think your ugly, i know it :)  just relax and be yourself and always think positive. Also know that you are probably not ugly (cancers are often good looking) and that your self confidence can improve if you realise these truths.

best of luck :)

  

Answer 2

I'm a Cancer too. But usually all women think that way about themselves from time to time. As long as you don't make it a habit of doing this everyday. Stop being so concerned with looks and more concerned with helping the environment!!!!  No matter what happens, someone is always going to look better than you and there will be those who are uglier than you.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 3

i'm a cancer and im very self concious

like im always wondering how people see me

and i always want people to think im hot and stuff

and if they dont

i feel like c**p

but i always tell myself this:

OWELL

lol it actually works for me i get over things like that

but when i think about it it kills me so i have to keep a word in my mind to get rid of it,

Owell

Answer 4

I'm a cancer and i used to have self esteem issues. Now i'm just modest.

Answer 5

as said in america : s***w the jones,be yourself and enjoy the ride.

Answer 6

A lot of people have self-esteem issues nowadays due to the media's standard of beauty being more unrealistic than ever!  

But I've noticed Cancers in general can be more prone to feeling not so great about themselves.

Cheer up, if he doesn't want you because you "don't look like your pictures" or some c**p then he's not worth it.

-- Aries

Answer 7

Nope, that's just the media and other people influencing how your identity should be.

Answer 8

If you have a Scorpio boyfriend your appearance isn't really a big deal.

Don't think so hard about it love yourself forget what everyone else thinks.

Answer 9

awww. dont say that. you know what, cancers are known for being attractive, voluptuous with dreamy complexion. personally, ive never met an ugly cancer- male or female.

but self esteem problems? yes, we do. a lot. we're not very good at hiding it to others. our insecurities, self inferiority, we just to blurt it all out rather than contain it and appear calm and composed. and  todays world is all about 'making it happen' and makes no room for mistakes and being real. everythings including people are expected to be tip top, polished, composed, ahh, just watch the media...else, cancers are considered stereotypically weak, whiny, insecure, bla bla.....

but for the fact of life, anybody, disregarding of sun signs have had it or will have it, at some point of their lives. its just whether they are self aware of it or not, and as for some, they are very well aware of it, and thats why they seek a vaguely common hiding place, called superiority aka confidence. the way i see it, confidence starts from low self esteem. there's no way one can be superior without having the taste of inferiority.  

next time, when you compare yourself to other girls who appear to be confident and act confident, ALWAYS see what makes them confident??? are they really confident on their own, or they need assistance ie. like a crutch, materials? richness? intelligence? their bf? if you strip them all out of the source of securities (use your excellent imagination), would they still be as confident? if yes, then thats one of the many people who should look up to learn to cope with your insecurities.  

and as for you feeling you're ugly, dont give into that negativity so much. sometimes, its irrational and only sets you off for stupid reasons and you'll make yourself look stupid.

and you are with a scorp, right? id better warn you a bit (sisterly advice, and i have been w several scorpios, if only i  was this wise back then), while the scorpios on his good side, he'll make you feel like you're the most beautiful woman on earth. but when his moods sink in, oohh boy, looking at the fluctuating level of your self esteem....better start practicing being more rational, rather than giving into emotions. it'll help you alot. trust me.

good luck! =)

Answer 10

usually

all the cancers I've met have self esteem issues. always blaming themselves for things that have nothing to do with them. or they think someone is mad them and they're not. my sister is a cancer and she's gorgeous but she doesn't think so. I used to have a cancer friend and she was pale...but a pretty pale like a porcelain pale with big hazel eyes (green and brown) and a little bit of blue in them and she had these high check bones. she was really pretty but she didn't think so. the cancers I know will second guess themselves or hang onto things that are over.

ALL CANCERS....

if you hang onto things that are over just remember that it's done. you can't do anything about it now. just learn from it if you feel like you've done anything wrong. reflect BRIEFLY then move on. lesson learned. now wouldn't you have rather made a mistake and learned from it than make the same mistake over and over again?

just think of it that way-don't hang onto things from the past. focusing on things that are out of your control only makes you feel even more out of control. this way is much easier and will make you feel way better.

Answer 11

It all depends upon the relationship with your parents, for good or ill.  

Answer 12

I think all women feel the same way you do at some point, regardless of their zodiac signs.  

Answer 13

Just curious- Is your moon in Scorpio? You sound like someone i am very close to. I am a cancer and i don't worry about how others see me. Try not to worry about what others say.