Do celebrity adoptive parents raise their children?

Question

I am seeing all of these stories about celebrities adopting. How much time do you think they actually spend with the children when the cameras aren't there?

Do you think that this is OK, as long as the child is having a better life?

Do you think that this amount of time with kids is OK, even for their own biological children?

Answer 1

They have nannies.

Answer 2

Of course they do. They love their children just as much as anyone else. OK...so they can afford perks, but that doesn't make them any less of a parent.

Answer 3

I think i'd have to determine the amount of time being spent with the child before making a sound judgment on the situation.

Answer 4

My adoption agency requires adoptive mom to stay at home for the first 5 years of the child's life. Although not always necessary, I do think it can be very helpful and beneficial to the adoptee. So, in essence, I don't think a nanny should be raising an adopted child. However, I do think it's okay to hire a nanny to help you take care of your children if you have twins or several children close in age that require a lot of attention. I think the mom should try to stay at home and be as involved as possilbe.

ETA: He's awesome!!

I say require but they have waved the requirement for a couple of adoptive parents. They did this for two ladies which are teachers, so at least they get summers and holidays off with their children. Suprisingly, our adoption agency does not have a lot of adoptive parents in waiting so sometimes they wave some of the requirements in order to give the first moms more choices for adoptive couples. If they do wave a requirement, they are always honest with the first mom. Thankfully they are not in the business of hiding things from them.  Ideally though, they would like the mom to stay at home the first 5 years. I'm sure the first moms take this into consideration as well when they decide on the adoptive couple. I know that's one of the reason's our first mom chose us.

Also, it's obviously not enforceable if the adoptive mom decides to get a job later on but sometimes I guess you just try to go on good faith.

Answer 5

People other than celebrities work long hours due to a demanding job or due to having more than one job.  I really can't speculate on the adequacy of one's family relationships without knowing the family.

Answer 6

I think they spend as much time as they can with the children and a good nanny is better than foster care any day!!

Answer 7

I was wondering the same thing, actually.  Just who is raising their children, adopted or biological.

Perhaps the nanny/childminders name should be listed on the child's certificate of BIRTH, dontcha think

I don't think having material wealth gives a child a 'better life' at all, not by a long chalk

Good question.

Answer 8

I doubt we will ever know for sure. They say they raise them without nannies and so on but come on we all need a night out or a break sometimes. And if they are busy making a movie, or song or whatever who has them then? I don't see them with a bub strapped to their back. :)

Answer 9

I am unsure of celebrity adoptions.......just like regular people they can have the same pressures.

My husbands coworker has two nannies that help them!!!

Celebrities are often on film sets for months at a time.....what happens if the other celebrity parent is filming another movie half way around the world? Probably not the best scenario any child..adopted or biological.

The adoption agency we are currently working with also requires one parent to stay home until the child goes into first grade. I think this is a good policy but I do understand that that there may have to be some flexibility not everyone fits into a neat little package.

I would not be so concerned as to people like Madonna adopting with the intention of having three nannies to help raise the children. My concern is how Madonna was able to bypass Malawi adoption law  when it clearly states that the adoptive parent must foster the child incountry for a period of no less then 24 months. I am sure about you but I was not aware Madonna lived in Malawi for 24 months!

Answer 10

I'm with LaurieDB.

I don't know any more about these people and what they are like as parents than what can be read in the tabloids. There is no way of knowing if any of that is true, or just written to sell newspapers!

These people might be wonderful, caring parents that just work long hard hours when they are "at work"  - which might be for a few months, followed by a few months off. While this could be a grueling schedule, the schedule for an intern can be pretty grueling, too! I don't see people criticizing interns for becoming parents!

Hey, I'm a public school teacher, but my kids think MY job is too limiting, since I can never come on a school trip or attend a class play or party! Every job makes it hard to be a parent.

I will not criticize people I know nothing about.

Answer 11

I don't know; just what is this "better life" you speak of?

A Prada nursery?

Being paraded around in a stretch Lexus?

Being raised by nannies and never getting to spend quality time with Mommy and Daddy, because they are away on location shooting another movie and Daddy can't come home because he and Mommy split up over Daddy's latest affair with that younger starlet?

Until we define just what a "better life" is, it's impossible to answer your question.

Answer 12

but... isn't adoption about giving a child to a couple with mucho moola???  

or at least, that's the party line.

seriously, i have no clue.  some do and some don't, i suspect. similarly to some non-celeb families.  i have known many families who are about as well known as the local HS football star, where the kids are raised by au pairs, and sent to boarding school at 7.  

so i don't think celebrity status is a good measure of a parent's likelihood to raise their children.

also, can you define "a better life?"

ETA: wow c_fan, that's interesting... although i see the logic behind this policy; i can also see where it's not practical.   personally, i always take about 6 months off with my children. and i'm planning to take a sabbatical in june-december to stay home with my son. primarily because i have the help and resources to do it. but...i'm interested, what happens when the mom CAN'T stay home? unfortunately, not all women have this luxury.  ps.  nice to see you back :-), how's your little man?

Answer 13

I doubt they do...they can pay their nannies TONS of money to do the raising...