Do couples really go years with out s*x in long marriages?

Question

thats not possible is it?

Answer 1

Yeah it is possible.  But they are still best friends and love each other, just prefer to read a book in bed, snuggle a little, or do it without intercourse, maybe a vibrator, oral.....  

Answer 2

I have only been married 4 years but the s*x went from 6 time a day to once a week so Mine has slowed down!

Answer 3

I sure hope not. I have been married for 15 years and I don't want to go a week. I guess everyone is different.  

Answer 4

Unfortunately, it happens frequently but it is not healthy.   Sexual energy is an essential part of who we are (identity).   We are sexual beings and therefore sexual expressions are a significant part of how we express who we are.   The popular culture (especially pornography) has distorted how we view sexual expressions.   A holy man said, "Sexual union is a fusion in which one discovers God."   It is possible for couples to maintain intimate relationship for life, especially in sexuality.

Answer 5

Depending on the relationship.  I have been with my second husband for three years now, and it does slow down becaue of schedules, kids.  The key is not to let the spark fade, other wise it's just going through the motions.  

Answer 6

It is possible, but it´s not the right way to go. But it is true, many couples do because they lose the sense of marriage, the sparks and the affection. That´s why marriage is like a business, you need to work on it everyday to mantian it healthy and profitable. But rutines, kids, work and too much responsability create cracks which many couple fall into, not realizing that their relationship as a couple is growing apart. Once they realize this, they need a lot to work on and some couples decide ti split instead of working on it. Thruthfully, I believe they don´t want to go through all the tough work.

But going back to the s*x question, this does happen but it doesn´t happen to all the couples. You just have to keep a good watch.

Answer 7

i really hope that doesnt happen to me ........ my parents have gone years because of medical things with my mom but they still love each other i dont think they feel it is important anymore  

Answer 8

Yeah they do, it's different for everyone. Some couples need it more often than others and thats fine, as long as cheating doesnt go on.  

Answer 9

Of course they do.  You do remember that the wedding vows include the words "In sickness and in health", right?  Well, there are a LOT of health-related reasons why a couple might not be able to have s*x for periods of time.  There are even lots of reasons why s*x might not be possible.  If you love someone and have created a life and a home with them, you don't just walk out the door because the man's p***s quit getting erect.  

There's a LOT more to marriage than just s*x.  If you're willing to leave husband #1 because he is no longer capable, what promises are you given that husband #2 won't become incapable also?  You can go through more husbands than Liz Taylor and every one of them could end up impotent due to diabetes or high blood pressure or heart disease or prostate cancer or any of a hundred other reasons.

Every married couple has challenges.  And quite honestly, I'd rather have my husband alive and incapable for 30 more years, than have him die right now from a health problem left untreated because he was afraid of becoming impotent.  Who he is doesn't change.  

If you can't live without, buy a vibrator.  

Answer 10

Yes, sometimes a couple will go years and years without having any sexual intercourse.

It may be because they are bit physically attracted to eachother anymore or that they just feel that s*x is not an important thing in their relationship.

Answer 11

I didn't think so either before getting married but yes sexless marriages do exist more than you realize. That's the way my marriage is. It sucked really bad at first, because I came to realize that my main reason for not having s*x anymore was the fact that, I just wasn't physically attracted to my wife anymore. But, I have kids, and I don't want them to experience a broken home so i've just learned to occupy my mind with different things.

Oh well, life goes on!

Answer 12

Yea-but they get use to it-it's kinda like -what do you want for dinner honey-obviously it isn't s*x!