Do (did) you have momma drama?

Question

If there was a show called mommazilla will your mom ( mom-in-law) cause drama? My FH & I are paying for our wedding 100% ourselves if my mom is not telling us something we should have she calls me to complain about something. I know me having a wedding is tough because my mom & dad eloped and my mom always wanted a traditional wedding like her sisters, but for goodness sakes can she stop. So whats your mama drama? How are you handling the drama from your momma or momma in law?

Answer 1

Oh yes!  The first thing my mom does when I tell her I'm planning a wedding is whine about the fact that I'm not eloping because it's so much hard work.  I told her that I would handle it myself, and she says how stressful it's going to be.  Then I tell her, I will pay for a lot of the stuff, and she complains how expensive that would be.  I told her my in-laws have volunteered to help take care of a lot of the stuff, and she says I'm being unfair to them.  At the point, I start to get frustrated with her, and she says, "See, I told you weddings are stressful.  You're stressed out already!"

Then after all her talk about how complicated big weddings are and how we should do something simpler, when I actually started planning the wedding, everything I do, she tells me I'm not doing enough, and it has to be bigger.  I'm just glad I didn't have the wedding where she is like she'd originally suggested.  That would have just made everything that much more stressful

Answer 2

Trying to ignore it. Our guest list went from 150 to over 300 now because I let her help. Try not to get angry about it because all she wants is the best for you. You just have to say "ok" whenever she makes a suggestion but the final decision is yours to make.

Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 3

My husband and I saw that coming from his mother before we got engaged based on how she completely took over my husband's sister's wedding planning.  We agreed to pay for everything ourselves so we could make all the decisions and not have to deal with her.  Yeah, she got a little moody sometimes (when she wanted us to invite more of her friends and we said no, etc.), but we just ignored it.

Happily married for 3 months!

Answer 4

I didnt really have any drama...my mom let me make my decisions and helped when I asked (but that may be b/c we're 8 hours apart) and my mom in law actually gave some good advice and some family heirlooms for us to use.  she gave me a necklace to wear that was her mothers they all wore on their weddings and a precious moments cake topper (which I didn't like at all but still used on the table) that was her mothers in her collection that meant a lot to them.

Answer 5

I am getting married next June to my gorgeous Italian fiance but of course - he has a mother - I have heard that Italian mothers are THE worst, at the moment its cool but once I have a ring on my finger I have a feeling things will only get more intense.

Check this space in a few months !

Answer 6

Don't have one

Answer 7

I just let her talk and I ignored it.  A smile, nod, and “Thanks, I’ll take that into consideration” can deal with a host of unnecessary advice. I’ve learned that with control freaks, the best thing to do is not to try arguing with them.  

Answer 8

OMG yes.  My mother was AWFUL.  She just kept saying, "Oh, I just want it to be the most perfect day for you!"  We too were paying for it ourselves, and she drove me nuts.  Finally I let her be totally in charge of the food and the tents just to keep her busy and to shut her up.  We ended up with not enough food and a red and white striped tent.  And she didn't understand why I was upset.  We didn't speak for 3 months.  Stick to your guns and do things your way!!!

Answer 9

No, Mama drama here...

Answer 10

I had momma drama, as well as grandma drama!

my mother decided to threaten me with my wedding...and spread lies to my family saying that my 'now-husband' beat me...let's just say we don't talk anymore...

his grandmother...old Italian...set in her ways...caused so many problems from the 'no-kids' issue to the location...to the date...you name it!

I simply told everyone 2 months prior to the wedding that it was on hold...that we weren't getting married....

John and I secretly planned an entirely new wedding 2 months before the actual day...not letting anyone in on it until 2 weeks before!

We ended up having the wedding of our dreams...a much smaller, more intimate ceremony and reception...done the way we wanted it!

Yeah, some family are upset that they weren't invited...but who cares...it was our day and the only thing we regret...is not doing it sooner!

Good luck!

Answer 11

I am planning my third wedding. The first was planned in 3 weeks and held in the church basement when he and I were too young and didn't understand the seriousness of the commitment. We divorced after 1.5 years because he was an alcoholic. My second ceremony was just he and I and our witnesses. We divorced after 18 years because he cheated on me and became physically abusive.  I am planning my dream wedding to a wonderful Christian man that I wished I had met 25 years ago. We have taken our time to get to know each other (dated for 5 and 1/2 years)  We both know that God brought us together and we want to honor that with a traditional church ceremony with family and friends in attendance.

  My momma drama is that my mother keeps making comments that she doesn't understand "why we are going to all the trouble because this is a third wedding."  My fiance was married once before in his mothers yard with just witnesses by someone that he doesn't even think was a minister.  We are paying for everything ourselves and most of the people we have invited either we didn't know until we started dating or they are very good friends who stood by me when my other marriages broke up. I am not wearing a white dress, but we are having a traditional ceremony that will be very meaningful to both of us with just a best man and a matron of honor. My mother is the only one who has said anything about it being my 3rd marriage, no one else seems to care. And they see my fiance and I very happy together and want to celebrate with us.  For the reception we are just having a simple cake and punch in the church fellowship hall.