i recently found my biofather and he has asked me to call his mother 'grandma'. now thats all fine and good for a couple of reasons
1. she is fantastic, i love her and she accepts me as one of her own, her words not mine.
2. i have no grandparents left, so the respect issue i have about calling him 'dad' wont apply to her. no one will be hurt but an 'extra' grandma' being around
now the question is, if you were the family of a long lost relative (NO ONE in this family knew of me for 35 years, i just showed up in his life one day) they dont know me from eve, would it be upsetting to you to hear this person calling your mother/grandma, whatever "grandma"
it seems almost disrespectful of me to use this term so early in our relationship. yes she is biologically related, but still a stranger.
whats your thoughts, am i being overly senstive or am i being respectful?
im so confused
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