Do i deserve it?????????????????

Question

I'm pregnant. in fact today is my baby shower and my husband looked at p**n last night while i was sleep. He know's how i feel about this whole this!!! i dont think he should get his "jolly's" with out me! ive came a long way be for i said i dont want him lookin at it at all. and i changed my mind because i didnt wasnt to leave him. so i said we can look at it together. now i no iI'mnot the best thing to look at in the world but impregnants pregnant and ive only gained 5 pounds so im not much bigger than i was when we got bigger. y is he lookin at this sh** behind my back y do i get this **** happened to me?? do i deserve it? and on top of all of this our baby boy that im carring has spina bifida. im so stressed out! i left him for a decent guy. i felt some thing with my husband. it seems like im just always up set now. i almost wish i would have stayed with my ex witch happenes to have been my high school sweet-heart. i dont no what to think. it hurts me that he look at this it makes me not want to eat so ill be skinny 4 him so he maybe would look at the p**n. i feel like it is a sin of lust. he doesnt see anything wrong with it. im so streesed out! i was hoping that this would have been a good day but i think im wrong. please help!!

Answer 1

Oh grow up already and chill out. Stop thinking of the ex, stop being controlling and demanding, and stop acting like p**n is evil. And stop putting that baby in harm's way because you're too selfish to eat. If you're only a couple months along and gained five pounds, you're doing okay. But you need to gain considerably more than that for a healthy delivery.

Grow up and get over it. Men look at p**n no matter how hot their girlfriend or wife is. If he's still going to bed with you, then there is nothing to be freaking out about.

Answer 2

I don't think he is looking at p**n because of you at all.  I know when I was pregnant my husband did the same exact thing.  It is just what guys do some times and my husband told me he was doing it because while I was pregnant there were just some things that I would not do so he was imagining that he was doing them while looking at p**n.  There is nothing wrong with you.  It is wrong that he is hiding it though. Don't stop eating because that could hurt your baby and you.  

Answer 3

Hey there, congratulations on your baby! I personally should probably be the last person giving advices nowadays, but can't help it :) Think of two things: 1. You left your ex because you didn't love him, he wasn't good for you, and it's over so no reason to dwell on it. 2. You are pregnant, therefore way more sensitive than you would usually be, the kind of things that upset you now maybe wouldn't even be a tiny problem any other time.  Men like p**n, just tell him that you need some reassurance that he still finds you beautiful, and promise him a great s*x life after you start feeling better. Suggest soft core so you guys can watch together. They are kind of cheesy, but at least they have a story and your stomach doesn't have to turn upside down :) Good luck and all the best!  

Answer 4

you are blaming your husband looking at p**n as an excuse to justify you thinking about your ex

wrong move lady

you should have thought about that before getting pregnant

its a bit of p**n, loads of guys, and girls do it

chill out

you do not sound mature enough to be having this baby, i suggest you try hard before this baby is here to becoming a mother and let the p**n thing slide

Answer 5

ASk yourself one question......... Would you rather him look at p**n or go out and cheat?

Answer 6

If he cannot control himself with p**n, he could be addicted. This is a problem for many people, so he's not alone. If he doesn't take your wishes into consideration, that shows a huge lack of respect for you. (And, not all men look at p**n.)

The most important thing is to take care of yourself and your baby. Your baby has spina bifida, and you're not wanting to eat because you're worried about how you look!! You're the mother now, and your child must be your priority. Take care of yourself. Don't try to hang on to a disrespectful man just for the sake of having one.

Answer 7

I don't know why women feel unattractive when they got pregnant.

When i got my ex pregnant. i found she is so attractive, and s*x is out of this world.

Cheer up girl. You should talk with your man. It is no reason to jump into conclusion and make matter worse.

Answer 8

I have two comments:

One the p**n thing has absolutely nothing to do with you. He is a pervert.  You could be the hottest thing in the world and he would still whack it to p**n. Coz he is a perv.

In most states p**n is illegal, there is a huge difference between magazines, and online p**n....especially with all the unseen cookies, and files.

Second, you left your ex, for him...? How much time was there in between? Or was it walking out one door and into another.

Perhaps, you need to move out on your own. And give yourself a break from the perv. This means no male friends.

See how hard your perv hubby will work to win  you back.  

And cut the internet.

Answer 9

well you really have to sit down and talk about this with him how much it really bothers you but you're also pregnant and this right now is to petty to deal with you don't need the emotional stress and neither does your child if he cares about you he will respect your wishes don't you think  

Answer 10

I understand where you are coming from.  I told my husband i was uncomfortable and it made me feel like less of a woman. i am very attractive and i couldn't understand why he indulged in this.  I look like one of those chicks on the flicks.- So why is he looking at other women?  He promised he would get rid of it but it seems like things took a turn for the worst. He finally came out and said this is what i like so deal with it every man has p**n. Long story short it falls along the lines of respect and double standards. If your husband happen to turn on a p**n and it was you on there--there would be h**l to pay without a question. My advice would be to do what your heart feels. I made the mistake in trying to make myself believe that if I ignore it it will go away. here i am 10 years of tears and confusion later wishing i went away. follow your heart. everyone doesn't watch p**n nor disrespect their spouses' or significant others wishes.

Answer 11

I think you are overreacting because you think you made the wrong choice by choosing the person you are with now.  Lots of men love to look at p**n......now if he is addicted or tries to contact women in real life that is different.  This is an irritating situation, but I would not worry that you deserve it or anything like that.  I think the guy just likes p**n.

Answer 12

It's wrong if it becomes an obsession.

IF you agree to watch it together, then why wouldn't it be ok to do it alone?  Makes no sense to me.

People m********e for heavens sakes.  IF you say you don't, then suggest you DO.  Then you will see your honey's side of it.

Your making a mountain out of a mole hill.