Do i ever tell my kids that I was adopted

Question

My Mom remarried when I was <2. The man she married adopted me and my brothers. Do I ever tell my children that pappaw is not their real grandfather, I know where my bio father is. do I ever introduce them to him?

Answer 1

Well you should tell them when there old enough to understand. And if your close to your bio father, then you could introduce him to your kids if you feel comfortable doing that. It is your choice if you introduce them. But when it comes to telling your kids that you were adopted, you should probably do that.  

Answer 2

I agree that you might be perplexed between deciding the Bio or the Adopted relation.

However,since you are the Bio parent to the child, they know who their parents are.Now speaking about Grandpa,since your foster father(who adopted you) has taken care of you and your brothers so far(Assumption), he deserves to be given the first preference.

You can do one thing, if you feel that you still want to maintain connection with your Bio father(the children&#039;s grandpa)  you can introduce them as another grandpa by relation.(Say..cousin brother to your father).This way, there are no sudden thrusts in the relation and nobody gets hurt.

Answer 3

Its not something you have to do..there grandpa is your father plan and simple might not be the same blood but he raised you and he is your father..

Answer 4

There&#039;s no shame in it, and your children can still look at your adoptive father as their grandfather. We will have the same thing, as my partner&#039;s father is not around, so we will be telling our kids that his stepfather is their grandfather. I don&#039;t think there&#039;s any harm in it, just make sure you have that conversation with them when they&#039;re a little older. Don&#039;t let them reach adulthood without knowing. It shouldn&#039;t be treated like a secret. Be open about it, and matter-of-fact. Perhaps they will be excited to have a third grandfather.  

Answer 5

perhaps not as very young children. i would only tell them if your bio father was actually in your life. i mean what is the point in possibly hurting the children and your father&#039;s feelings but pointing out that he is not your &quot;real&quot; father.

Answer 6

it depends on man things.

how old are your children? they may not be old enough to understand or you may have very well waited too long and it would just make them mad that you didn&#039;t tell them earlier.

if it was me that was adopted i would tell them. As long as your birth parents want to know their grandkids and its all safe i dont see why notbe honest in this family situation. it may even brig you and your kids closer.

oh and make sure you explan that papaw is their ral grandfather because you dont have to be blood related to be a great family!

Answer 7

If they really love him, and their old enough to understand, I think they&#039;d be fine with it.

You should be honest though!