Do i have a crush or is it love?

Question

there`s this guy i know,i`m not sure if i can say he`s a friend,but i do see him alot and he`s my friend`s friend.i`ve known him for a couple of years and i`ve always thought that he`s so cute but only recently when i was packing my things to leave home for a year,it hit me!i really really like this guy and i would truly like to spend as much time as i can with him!u see,whenever i see him,i keep on talking and talking and he`s always so quiet,but the thing is that my friend told me how much this guy hates g*y people+i already left home and i won`t see him till after a year,should i send him an email or should i wait or should i even tell him!?!?!?!?please help

thnx

Answer 1

NEVER assume that it's love, because if you were to find out that you don't have the slightest bit of a chance with him, it's going to hurt a lot more..

I think it's a crush, but a really big crush, you should try and stay in touch with him as much as you can and see where it goes from there

Answer 2

If you are packing your things to leave home for a year, that means you will not see him anyway.  It is too late to hang out much now.

Pour your energies into where you are headed -- boarding school or work or university -- and try to meet nice friends there, maybe even another boy to love.

But if you are not sure he is a friend or not -- and if he does not like g*y people -- then this is a crush, not lasting love.

Be at peace!  Of course you can send him occasional friendly emails, but if he is straight he will *not* fall in love with you, even if he is very cute.

Hope that, instead, you will meet a nice boy where you are going for the next year.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if i understand this.  It's definitely a crush and not love.  You're g*y and he dislikes g*y people, but you're considering telling him you like him?  Bad idea.  It's not going to get you anywhere.  He probably doesn't hate g*y people, but he's not going to start liking dudes... so to save yourself some awkwardness, don't tell him!

You will have plenty of other crushes that will be interested in you. Try not to fall for the straight guys, because you'll end up feeling hurt.  Forget about him, you'll be gone, and hopefully you'll find someone that is worth your while.  Good luck!

Answer 4

I have 2 previous best answers on the topic of love... Maybe they'll be able to help you out...

"I believe that's more of an emotional love than a sexual love. I've found myself in 'love' with someone's personality rather than them physically, however, I don't personally feel that's real love. To me, love is more of 'loving' them physically, emotionally, and in any other way you can love someone... That's why I say I've only loved twice, when I have emotionally loved many times, and physically/sexually loved many other times." -- My previous answer on a roughly similar question...

Imperfections make the person. Irregularities are what attract us to them. Wanting everyone to be "perfect" or exactly the same, there'd be no such thing as love.

I'm in love right now with someone despite MANY things that I normally don't like. Loving him is a part of all of these things.

On the topic of cheaters: I see that more as a reason of lack of communication and honesty. My personal stance: If I can be completely honest with you about anything & everything, especially the way I feel, then I can safely say that I love you. I love you enough to know and trust that no matter how open I am with you, that you will not hold any of it against me.

Love is about sharing yourself with the person you love, and hoping that it's reciprocated.

Answer 5

I don't mean any harm when I say this, bit it's something you need to hear: 'Move the h**l on.' If he isn't g*y and even doesn't like the idea of g*y guys, then you are lucky he spends time around you.

It's okay to admire him for his looks, or even personality but you

shouldn't get emotionally attached for you will only be left hurt in the end.

So, I wouldnt advise you to email him, just wait for you guys to bump paths again. Plus, you don't want to scare him away by him thinking you are all over him.

good luck with whatever you choose.