Do i have a hard life?

Question

in morning i wake up at 5-6, get ready, cook breakfast for me and my husband, go to college, come back, cook lunch, clean house, hand wash clothes, study, and then cook dinner, get ready for sleep, and sleep. besides that, my parents consider me a failure and i have a constant fear that they will do harm to my life someway or another. i have many friends at college, but no close friend. in weekends i stay in house, clean and cook and watch tv or study. sometimes i really get tired, and i get worried that i'm ill. that's the last thing i would want.

i want peace in my life, but i get depressed thinking that i might not have enough energy to work for my happiness and i'll never achieve it. am i complaining too much?

i'm almost 20 years old.

Answer 1

well, you have a busy life, compared to many americans (including me) but its not so bad when you look at people in other countries, we really take our GREAT lives for granted! (including me) I mean, I dont blame you, this isnt to accuse you, but many would see your life as a great life! You are healthy, you have food to cook, you attend not only school, but a college, you have clothes to wash, and water to wash it with, you have a house to clean, and stuff to clean it with, and a beg to sleep on, not to mention pajamas, a tooth brush, ect......, you have a TV to watch, you have close friends and you have a family!

This is how the less fortunate would see it, but we see it as a hard life, because we are use to having lots of free time, MANY conveniences, ect..... and we think it seems so difficult to do all this stuff! (I am guilty of this!)

Think of your life compared to many around the world whos day looks more like this:

"i wake up around 4, so i can get the food scraps fresh, and while they are still avalible, I usually walk around imn search of a puddle to drink from, Depending on what wonderful opportunities present themselves, i may get a variety of jobs, from rice picking, or trash sweeping if i am lucky, and i get usually 5 pennies an hour! I never got to get an education, but i am sure that is a reasonable amount of money! I save that up, and eventually i can buy myself a feast of bread, water, and if i am lucky, i may get just some cooked meat! when my work day is over at 11:00 PM, I usually head for any shelter i can find, by then, all the shaks and boxes are taken, so i need to sleep by the trash cans. Its REALLY hard to fall asleep there! But in many ways, i am blessed to get this spot! If i wake up early enough, i get scraps right away, treally fresh, and i get first picks! So in that case, I am a very lucky person!"

We all, (i am very guilty) forget to see the positives! We all need to realize our lives are very very good, easy, and convenient. I am not trying to nag, but i hope this just helps you look on the positive side more often!

by the way, this chaotic life will pay off, You will be very successful

Answer 2

You certainly have a great deal of stress at this time, insecurity can play a part,being uncertain of your future, you must learn to love yourself enough, not to depend on parents or any body Else's advice!! they are who they are, through "their" very own choices and perceptions, on how to live their live's. do not be frightened of making bad choices, they will be a blessing when you grow" and learn from them.Peace can only come from within YOU,  "at least", and good on you" you are going to college, how much praise have you recieved? look some can learn quick and some of us can take a bit longer, but will get there. and it will be really worth it,  "depression can be treated", see a doctor.

your inner peace is far more precious then material gains,   all journeys begin with the first steps, and as they say one door closes another door opens.

Answer 3

Yea it is. Wheres your husband though? hes supposed to be there for you.

Answer 4

its not hard compared to alot of people i know its amazing in facted compared to them  

Answer 5

do more things for yourself. seriously.

get out there and just start doing whatever the h**l you want. just do what makes you happy.

you're worrying too much and you're spending a lot of time worrying about what your parents etc. want you to be.

and you talk about happiness as if it is something to achieve, and something you will obtain if you work for it, as if it takes a lot of effort before you finally get to 'be happy'.

"happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of travelling"

enjoy the ride! appreciate the little things that make you smile, because the journey is as important as the destination. one day you'll look back and realise that what you thought was big ended up being not such a big deal, and the little things, like a good hard laugh, which you think to be insignificant, were actually the big things.

watch 'amelie' (its a french film). honestly, it helped me to see the beauty in everyday things, and it teaches you to live.

and as for having a hard life, this should have no bearing on how happy you are. my english teacher when i was at school lost both her parents when she was seventeen; one to cancer and the other to a drug overdose (her dad overdosed on drugs after his depression from the death of his wife) and she was left as the oldest of three siblings.  She is the person i have always looked up to, as she is so strong and is so warm-hearted, kind, loving, down-to-earth and genuine, and absolutely the most beautiful person on the inside i have ever known, and she is truly happy. and then there are people who still have the most fortunate lives and never manage to find happiness.

good luck, and i really mean it.

Answer 6

im sure you are doing great! dont let other people bring you down. this doesnt get you anywhere. looks like you are working hard and being responsible. so what are they on your case about. just keep doing what your doing and dont worry about what other people are saying.

Answer 7

You've taken on a lot for your age. Why don't you try to break the routine a bit, suggest to your husband to go out for the day or a date once or twice a month. Some parents are critical so you need to find friends to compensate for this to give variety and self worth.

Answer 8

ya u do take a break u deserve one