Do i have a mental illness?

Question

i havent always been like this..afraid to go outside and see people...feeling overwhelmed with anxiety when im in public. I havent been able to keep a job and have been unemployed now since 2006. i feel so depressed. like im all alone... I do not like going outside and most mornings i dont want to get out of bed. This all started after my grandfather remarried a hateful women when i was 13, it was almost like cinderella, her kids were better and they would get everything while i stood in the dark basically and fought with her every day for 7 years. well he passed away and i was suppose to get the house, it wasnt in writing, he trusted his wife to give it to me as he left everything to her... well she didnt she lied to me and told me she would buy me a house in nfld for my son and i and then brought us there and left us to fend for oursellves!! luckily i knew ppl there. But anyway i have had many tramatic experiences that i couldnt fit on one page.. do i have a mental disease? Like i honestly feel as though i cant work!! I feel like im no good for nothing... i dont have a doctor and havent been able to find one. I feel like everyone is looking at me and there is something wrong with me.. i also suffer from terrible acne and scars.... I dont know what to do i feel like this every day!! if i could i would hide away forever and NEVER go outside..... I honestly cant handle being around people, im always nervous and like i said FULL of anxiety and worrying about what they are thinking of me.... No matter how i try this pain and sadness never goes away.......... is it because of what happened with my grandpa and the witch women??? i am 23 years old now but i still cant forgive her for what she did to me i had no other family but my grandpa..and after he died i had literally nothing! She didnt give me anythign of my poppas...she gave it all to her family...

Answer 1

Wow, that is quite a story! It doesn't sound like you have a mental illness to me. I'm no Dr. or anything, but it just sounds like you have had a pretty hard life since your Grandpa married the witch! The hard part is digging yourself out of the past and moving forward from this day.

As for your anxiety and fear of going out, a little therapy may do you a world of good? Or even some group therapy or something like that? If you don't want to do that, just read about it or really try to dig deep and find out what is making you feel this way?? Is it a general distrust of people after what she did to you? Unfortunately, that lady has not been a very positive part of your life. Don't allow her into your life anymore! Don't rely on her for anything and definately don't believe anything she tells you or promises you. I would be very hurt too, like it sounds like you are. If there is any kind of legal action you could take against her, I would go for it, but it doesn't sound like you can?

Oh and not sure if you have tried Proactive for acne, but it reallly helps! I use it too. This is a hard time in our lives. I know, I'm 24. I too have felt tormented by everything happening around me, and just growing up into an adult, ya know? Maybe some career counseling or something of that nature would help you find a job. Have you considered school or a trade school?

Well, I hope this helps, and everything gets better. We can't change the paste, but we can learn from it and try to do better tomorrow. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

honestly hun

it sounds like a case of post traumatic stress disorder

your memories are keeping you from living your everyday life,

i know you feel that its hard to trust people because of what they have done to you in the past, but you neeed to understand that not everyone

in the world is like that, because you are thinking so negativley now you only see the negative view on things, this is not good for your son, he needs to know his mummy is there for him and always will be i understand this is not easy to deal with.

I am coping right now myself after much abuse and what not in my past but the world keeps going on without us, and we have to get back on the wagon eventually or all will be lost, my advice would be to talk to someone, even if its not a doctor you maybe just need to let things out whether it be subconcious isssues you need to resolve or things that are taking place currently in your life, if you need to talk or anymore answers to questions, please dont hesitate to contact me.

I am in school for pyschology if it helps.

Answer 3

Fight this c**p. Who cares what people think of you. If you like yourself why should you care what others think?  

Answer 4

You suffer from social anxiety. You try to stay away from people as much as possible. Part of it has to do with the fact that you feel inferior to others. That everywhere you go you are being judged and it started with the 'her kids are better than me' feeling. You tend to withdraw from people because of the fear of being judged.  

Answer 5

im not a doctor or anything of that. im just a teenager. i wanted to give you some advice. i dont know if it will help or if it is some disorder you cant get over. but here is what i say f**k the world and f**k people. they dont know you so they dont have the right to judge you. try not to care so much about what other people think. usually they are thinking about their own lives and problems. and if they do take some time out of their lives to think something about you then they probably dont have a life. people usually judge others so they dont have to look at themselves, at their own pathetic lives.

do NOT let people tell you who you are and what you are worth. you are you. you are a person and you should be yourself no matter what anyone thinks about it. they have their own lives to worry about. dont let them control yours. and just because they treated them better doesnt mean they are better. it just shows how strong you are. to endure that and still be okay. do not worry God will punish those who need to be punished.

Answer 6

No, you are fine. You are just constipated.  

Answer 7

f*ck that, you cant live your life like that. forget about that lady dont let her bother you. just go off on your own and completely dissasociate yourself with her, you dont really have any other good choice. hire a hitman or something, no you dont have a mental illness just quit being scared to act

Answer 8

yeah, but it might be social anxiety.  

Answer 9

not technically mental illness

i think it is social anxiety or social phobia

extreme depression

and things that are the result of your bad expereinces - maybe PTSD, maybe not

Answer 10

please please please tell urself that ur strong...and u gonna do everything to make ur life better show them what can u do and dont be stressed im sure u have someone who loves u...ur not alone in this world dont get stressed comunicate with peoplee...ur just depressed its not mental problem...i know exactly how u feel and make urself stronger..i can do that ....tell that to yourself everyday

Answer 11

I guess anxiety disorders are considered a "mental illness" because it is something that affects your everyday functioning and well-being. But why worry about technicalities and official terms? I would strongly recommend that you see a therapist (please don't be offended by this, it is always recommended that anyone, seriously ill or perfectly sound, should see a therapist ). If you keep repressing and hiding your fears, it's never going to get better. Judging from your long question, I'm guessing that you have a lot to get off your chest. You just need someone to talk to, preferably a professional, but even a friend or relative. It's a small step, but I'm sure you'll feel much better just after talking about it.