Do i have a right to be mad at this.?

Question

Its my birthday oct 3rd and my girlfriend that i have been with for a year got invted to a sweet sixteen on that day... Well she knows its my birthday and she totally ignored it was my birthday and jumped on saying oh man i have to see what my friends are doing and ill prob go..LIKE HELLO!! its my birthday and your going to jump on this party???? And then she tries telling me that i never told her what we were doing for my birthday.. mean while my birthday is 2 months away.. i dont understand you didnt even give me a chance.. even if i have cake at night with my whole family i want her to be there with me.. but she didnt even ask if i was doing anything for my birthday and said she going to this party. Do i have a right to be upset? Isn't this very selfish????

Answer 1

h**l yea be upset. just because she wants to see her friends stuff doesnt mean she should bail out on you. thats not vool. id sit her down and ya know, camly talk yo her about it.  

Answer 2

i'd be pissed....h**l yea she sounds selfish!! u have every rite to be pissed off.

Answer 3

nah..ur ok.. but i guess.. if she really wanna attend tat party..den just let her be.. its her lost and i guess.. if ur upset.. then let her kno about it.. talk it up work it out..

Answer 4

Yep. guess that tells you how serious she's about you.

Answer 5

Not only u have the right to be upset...that is also grounds 4 brake-up...it sure sounds like your more committed to the relationship than she is...i see alot of the females in here said talk to her about it...well that is not good advise...u r opening up yourself to become wimped and wipped...allways remember this,'talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words'...i like to ask u a question now...what did her actions say to you?...

Answer 6

boyy, you have every right to be mad. it dosn't matter if your the guy, or if you should take it easy. its your birthday and you can do what you want to. if she dosn't realize it give her some hints if you think its really important for her to be there. be like "whooa, you know what i realized im getting old dood!" hope it works out.  

Answer 7

Neither of you have a clue!  

Answer 8

well yes and no well it depends did you tell her ahead of time wat did she get invited to first

Answer 9

That was pretty rude and you do have a right to be mad. I think you should talk to her about it, but thats not what your asking. So yes, you do have a right to be mad. What's more important? Celebrating an important day in your life or going to some party?

Answer 10

u would young and should be spending it with ur family. but u do have a right to be mad. who makes birthday plans 2 months ahead? that's selfish of her to not be with YOU on YOUR birthday. if a party is more important to her than you are, they maybe she's not worth it.  

Answer 11

Yes tottally

She should be by ur side...

Even i would want my bf by my side wen its my b-day..

Answer 12

yes and no

she could have asked you, but sweet 16 birthday only happens once for girls it's kinda something special, you can celebrate your birthday with her on another day and have the whole day, have special cake after dinner out with her. could say your selfish same as her. which is right?... both&neither. my birthday is near a holiday and I've had to  work long hours on my actual birthday for a long time. it's about the celebration not the actual day. tell her your disappointment but be nice, suggest a different day. be the bigger person.

Answer 13

i think it is. She should be there with you!

Answer 14

its a very childish reason to get angry yeah but you have the right to be angry. You'd think ur girlfriend might want to know when her mans b-day is but talk to her bout it. That the best thing to do. Don't blow over a whole relationship because of one mistake and a simple mistake at that fact.Tell her what u have planned for that they and if she still decides to go to the party instead of spend it with try to compromise. It must be a close friend if she is so persistent.

Answer 15

It’s not really selfish, it’s totally understandable. Maybe if you just talk to her, and ask her why she would do this, maybe it will help.  By the way happy early birthday.  

Answer 16

It's extremely selfish. If it was the other way around, she would definitely feel the same way as you do. Not to mention that perhaps she could have come up with something fun for you to do for your birthday, like take you out (basically what you would do for her). It's obvious that her social life means more to her than your relationship, I'm sorry to say.  

Answer 17

I would think you would have the right to be upset.

that is very messed up. h**l even if you werent doing anything for your bday, She should still be their for you cuz thats what bfs and gfs do for eachother

Answer 18

yep, i would be mad that's pretty rude of her. especially because you guys have been together for a year, she should be more committed than that. it could be a sign of how committed she is to the relationship or it could mean nothing. maybe she's just kinda selfish.  

Answer 19

yes it is selfish. but how old are you? you probably won't even be together on your next birthday. don't sweat it.

Answer 20

Not only do you have a right to be mad - you have a right to FREEEAAAAKKK. But that wouldn't change anything. If your girl dogs you on your birthday time to find a new one. Sounds like you need a new one right now. Why wait. Get someone who deserves you...she doesn't.

Answer 21

what a b8tch! you totally have the right to be upset! i would be!

good luck!  

Answer 22

Oh, yeah be upset dude. I mean, I can understand her excitement, but if I were her, my boyfriends birthday is more important to me then my friends sweet 16.

You should talk to her and tell her how you feel, she might blow off her friends party to be with you, knowing that it should be more important.

Answer 23

your a d**k shes just wants to have fun.

Answer 24

yes...be mad at her....or maybe she just wants to make u jealous so u can give her a lil attention....but still...very selfish

Answer 25

its pretty selfish.....

but she is very young so its understandable..

if i were in your shoes id dump her....but thats just me.

Answer 26

ya you do have a right to be mad at something like this but don't blow it out of proportion cause then your gonna get dumped

Answer 27

Then Shes Not A Good Girlfriend.

End Of Story.

Answer 28

of course you do she should definantly  do whatever your doing

Answer 29

i think u do hav the right to be upset i mean hello u guys hav been goin out for a yr soo u should hav feelings or whatever to each other..especially caring..cuz i would be upset if my bf would do that!!

Answer 30

you're the guy, you can't expect that stuff lol.  if it's bothering you so much, talk to her about it, dont' be mad about it, it's only gonna cause problems later

Answer 31

just cause your the guy doesnt mean you cant get mad:S..

anyways.. i think thats pretty screwed yes you have the right