Do i have to say yes

Question

my bf of 3 years wants to have a 3some.

im not totally against it but it is a little weird.

my question is if i say yes will he still only love me or will he want to do tjis all the time? help will he be bored w just me after?? 2 questions in one dilemna

Answer 1

Dump his sorry butt.

Tell him a three way is fine, as long as the third is another guy,.

Time to move on, you deserve better, (with someone who actually appreciates you)

Luck

Answer 2

you don't have to say yes.  Tell him how you feel uncomfortable and all that.  I think it's important he knows that you should be able to please him excellently, because you two love each other.  It'd actually be more okay if it was with another guy, cause if it was with another girl someone like me would see him as selfish, being pleased by two girls at once.

Also, I have to agree that it does seem very selfish and that it looks like he is using you.  He may not actually even love you, and everyday he tries to fool himself into thinking he does so he doesn't have the guilt of using you on his back.

Answer 3

Just tell him if you do this, that you're not going to this very often, or you'll never do it again. Give requirements to him that you think are appropriate to fit your needs. good luck! (haha)

Answer 4

Tell your boyfriend he has to have a 3some with another guy first.

Does he have the other girl picked out. If he does it is ovious why he wants a 3some. If you say yes to the 3some he want have to cheat on you.

Don't do anything you don't want to do.  

Tell him NO.  I don't want to talk about this topic ever again.

Answer 5

A threesome sound awesome. Now think of the reality. Can he keep it up long enough to satisfy both of you? Next, are you comfortable with  trying to satisfy another woman or being satisfied by one? Can he handle that? Reality isn't a p**n movie. They are just entertainment, not reality. Try it  and good luck. He's more likely to be "bored" with threesomes than you.  

Answer 6

It all depends if you guys have an open relationship. If so it shouldn't really matter, but if you guys don't have one then, I would have to put yourself first and do what makes you happy.

Answer 7

Say no and she what he does..

His response will tell you if he is worth further investment of your time.

I'd dump him...a 3 some is not big deal..but you got to feel good about what you do. You may not be sexually compatible..

You of course do not have to say yes.  But I'd start thinking about is this the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with...

Answer 8

omg dont agree to that if u do u luv him more than he cares about u .... u would be okay with it? and of course he would wnat to do that all the time y have one wen i can have two right? and since he asked if he could have a threesome i guess in his mind he would be going if the other was hotter than he would find it boring with just one after and he might brag about this to other ppl jsut dump him how inconsiderate just cause u were with him 3 years dont waste anymore time leave him reallie u might have more problems in the future like cheating and him having threes with others a  guy shouldn't even consider that with someone he luvs i mean a guy thing gets in the way of them thinking but wen he finds someone he luvs those lust for other ppl should be there u deserve someone better u will get hurt its not worth it to waste your time at the end if u r gonna get hurt then just leave before getting anymore hurt and u want some disease r something?

Answer 9

moral descend of ur boyfriend

true lovers dont do **** like that

dump him

get 1 who is faithfull to u only

he is working out his fantacy using u

dont u have some self respect baby????

Answer 10

Looks to me that your bf isn't really committed/satisfied with you. Yes you say that you're not totally against but if he enjoys it then who's to say he won't want it more often and what female enjoys sharing her man sexually all the time? (i would not want some other chick satisfying my man). I have a feeling that if you go through with it, he's gonna wanna do it again and again and again and then you're really gonna have a dilemma on your hands. Just say no.

Answer 11

Uhhmm, I would tell him no, that is a not a normal activity in a relationship. Tell him he watches too much MTV or internet p**n or something. He's definitely just trying to use you.

Answer 12

Only do it if its what you want. If its two guys say yes. if its another girl in the picture say no.  

Answer 13

So this immature guy wants to cheese-off two women?

He's a nut and he is likely to drag in some disease-ridden Petrie dish to share cooties with.

You don't need any of that at all. Open marriages don't work. You are either together or not. It sounds like he is looking for your permission to cheat on you.

Better to spell things out and tell him to either behave or hit the road.

Go find someone who will respect and be faithful to you.