Do i need help of a pshychologist?

Question

Hi, I am a 24year old married woman.I'm very caring abt my family. From my childhood I have a real worrying problem with regards to my behaviour. I am very much worried abt the future.For Instance, If i hear that somethign has happend to someone, then I'll imagine what 'll I do if its happends to my loved ones. Abt my Hubby, my brother and all. I'm afraid of they driving alone, especially in a 2 wheeler. I rarely go to church or Temple since I beleive that god is always with me. So I pray all the time to make them safe.

But the real peoblem arrives when it comes to the extreme end. I mean, I cannot stop thinking abt the worst thing and keep on thinking aound 10-12 times then I start praying to avoid all these. I look at the pic of God, then I cannot stop looking at it. Keep on dong it for the past 12 years. I'm afraid even a bad thought or word or behaviour of mine can cause probs to them and they will be cursed and they will have to suffer bcos of my fault. What is this...............how can i solve this....

Only people who cares and think can give a solution to calm down my mind answer. otherwise please dont, since your one answer can make a lot of diff: in me.

Answer 1

I think a psychologist might say that you have a little bit of an Obsessive Compulsive disorder.  Since it's not an extreme case, I think they would treat it with medication and maybe a small period of therapy.  I don't think it's anything too serious, but if it's affecting your life in a negative way, I would seek some therapy.  I wish you and your family all the best :-)  

Answer 2

You say God is always with you. It means you believe in God.

So why care? Leave everything upto God.

When you think something bad, how many times has it turned true?

And when you think  something good, how many times has that turned true?

Kisi ke sirf sochne se kuchch nahi hota.

You think about and carry on your work and let God think about his. Do not interfere with God's work.

Hope this helps.

Relax....Enjoy life...Have fun.

Answer 3

well...i think ur prob is dat u r like worrying for evrything n always think negative.......datz not much of a prob.....but i think itz betta 4 u 2 go 2 a doc or covince urself to be positive n optimistic.yeah....b+ve!

Answer 4

Dear Kukku, Here is an attachment I came across in the net, it may help you. This is not mine but a person named steve has shared it in the net. Read it, you  will have some relief.

My name is Steve Hill from England. In this article I am going to explain about how I have managed to turn my life around from one which was constantly living in fear, to one where I now look forward to the future. I hope this proves to be interesting and beneficial to anyone who reads it.

I was always the type of person who would be constantly worrying about many different aspects of life and who was seemingly always stressed. I could not find a way to break through from this vicious cycle and at many a time I wondered whether it was worth living at all. I have to admit that on many occasions I have gone to bed hoping that I would die in my sleep and therefore would not wake up.

I am virtually sure that I am not the only one who lives life in this way. What I decided to do was to try to work out what exactly was causing my anxiety and stress.

It was about being honest with myself. There have been many a night where I have been unable to get to sleep all night, basically I had too many worries circling through my mind. This meant that I could not relax and therefore could not sleep.

By thinking clearly, I realised that I had a fear of the future. I am someone who talks to myself quite a lot, a bit strange I know. I would often be asking myself a number of questions:

What will happen if I lose my job?

How will I cope if my girlfriend leaves me?

I have a wedding to attend next week, what if I make a fool of myself in front of my friends and family?

I am going on holiday in three months time, how will I cope if there are any problems with the plane etc?

How am I going to afford to buy my first house?

How will I cope when my parents die?

These are just a few of many questions that I used to ask myself.

I decided to discuss the way I was living my life and my fears to my parents. They gave me some superb advice. They stated that life is too short to be constantly living in fear and that worrying only makes things worse. I basically had to try my best every day and that is all anybody could expect from me. They told me to think in a more positive way and to concentrate on all of the good things that I had in my life. There will no doubt be challenges ahead but you need to deal with them when they arise.

I have taken on board there advice even though it has not been easy. My life is now so much better and when a fear comes into my head I just bat it away.

Source: http://www.healthguidance.org/authors/20...  

Answer 5

Sounds like it could be OCD . and since it bothers you .. you should see a therapist ... OCD can be helped with therapy and maybe medication.  good luck.

Answer 6

Have you ever thought about the fact that there is never a moment when you are not thinking—that whatever happens in this world begins with a thought?

Psychology says that our mind controls our body. So, taking charge of your mind becomes a vital factor in keeping your body healthy. You can do this through affirmations that establish the power of your mind. Try: "With the power of positive thinking I now take charge of my body to maintain perfect health, strength and happiness unconditionally, now and always, so be it." When you repeat this, the misleading programs of your mind will be erased.

Exercise Positive Affirmations

Susan Jeffers, noted self help author, avers that positive affirmation is a proven tool for steering clear of negativity and fear. She explains, "Positive affirmation is a strong positive statement telling us that all is well. With constant repetition of this uplifting and soothing statement, the voice of doom and gloom is replaced with thoughts of peace, power and love." Pin up positive affirmations like "It is all happening perfectly" or "I am powerful and I can do it" at your office desk or in your car, and look at it on your way to work. It has been demonstrated that just repeating, writing or thinking positive statements lend us strength, whether or not we believe them. And if we say affirmations often enough, we ultimately start believing in them! Positive affirmations can certainly arm us with resilience for facing adversity.

Associate With Positive People

Both positive and negative thoughts are contagious. At the workplace one often encounters unhappy souls, who find something wrong with almost everything around them. They point fingers when things go wrong, they grumble, moan and find fault. It helps to steer clear of these people as they rub off their attitude and state of mind on us. When we meet people, we are affected by their aura and thoughts consciously or subconsciously. Therefore, it helps to be in the midst of people who are optimistic, upbeat and happy.

Positive thinking can empower us in a way that would boost our self esteem, expand our comfort zone and envelope us with well being and health, thus paving way for personal and professional growth. It has been aptly said that a positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible!

Answer 7

You; not only have a clear and a compassionate heart; but also seem to have a mind of devotion; the devotions of which I think that; you might be using wrongly;

All our actions are not only driven with knowledge and abilities of knowledge; but also with the strength and wisdom of self; about them; about the relationship of self with others; and with god himself.

When these go wrong; we not only tend to do things directly all by our selves but also do them wrongly and continue to do them wrongly for ever; without ever knowing that our knowledge and abilites of knowledge together with the strenght and wisdom of our selves; which drives us to know our relationships and to perform our actions with them and for them; perhaps might be wrong AS WELL; and the reason and cause of our problems, illnessess, weaknessess, sufferrings, pains,  etc.  

First and fore most; if you do believe in god; then instead of believing in the powers and abilities of self to find and seek solutions and to use them effectively and effeciently for solving the problems of self and for achieving the desired results; it is advised that you start believing in the powers and abilities of the knowledge and abilites of knowledge together with the strenght and wisdom of god himself to help you; insteadof those of your self.

Secondly; if you do believe in god then; instead of seeking help, solutions, replies and results from him; seek the strength and wisdom and the powers of knowledge and the abilities of knowledge of his self from him; in your self;

A) by praising him and the work, actions, and performances of his self to help mankind and all his creations alike;

B) by bidding his name as the power of actions of your self for activating the self to perform the actions of self; instead of THE FEELING AND THE SENSE OF i OF SELF IN SELF;

C) by offering the highest love of self to him,( PRIMARILY AND ESSANTIALLY THE  TENDENCIES OF SELF TO FEEL, THINK, AND KNOW THE SOLUTIONS AND TO USE THEM EFFECTIVELY AND EFFICIENTLY, BUT YOU CAN ALSO DO WITH LITTLE WATER, LEAVES OF MEDICINAL OR PIOUS PLANTS, FRUITS, ETC. ); instead of the  problems, illnessess, weaknessess, sufferrings, pains,  etc of your self to him; for seeking the spirits of joys, love, compassion, gracefullness, blessings, righteousness, goodness, victory, glory, and purity and clarity of the religion of his self only for the whole of man kind; for the self; instead of any thing else for self.

D) by regularly doing the above willingly, religiously and devotedly during early morning and evening prayer times in the common place of worship;

E) by ensuring that you not only maintain the purity, cleaniness and the goodness of the body, mind, and heart of self in self; but also their health, wealth, and wisdom in self; together with those of the devotions,the soul, and the spirit of self as well.

F) by letting your above actions be evident to others; through the knowledge gained in theirselves; about your ability to work hard for ensuring the following;

a) that they get good food cooked by you after enlightning yourself in new and better ways of cooking new and better dishes;

b) cleansing and purifyng the kitchen and place of worship at home all by your self alone;

c) that each and every body is not only responsible for the health, wealth and wisdom of the body, mind and hearts of themselves together with the joys of same for themselves; but that they have to earn them for them selves by following and doing actions and by sharing the results of actions with others; as mentioned above.  

IT IS ONLY AFTER YOU HAVE AGREED TO DO ABOVE;  TAKEN APPROPIRATE STEPS TO DO AS ABOVE; AND AFTER YOU HAVE SERIOUSLY BEGIN TO COMMITT AND DEDICATE YOUR SELF TO DO AS ABOVE; THAT YOU CAN GO TO ANY BODY IN THE OUT SIDE WORLD( INCLUDING A DOCTOR OR A PSHYCHOLOGIST) FOR AVAILING THE BENEFITS AND RESULTS OF YOUR KARMAS.  

Answer 8

I used to worry about the future. But then I realized that 80% of the stuff I worried about wasn't worth worrying about and the other 20%, I couldn't do anything about.

If you believe praying does any good, then, by all means, continue to pray.

Things are going to be the way they are supposed to be; control what you can and deal with the rest. There is really not much more you can do.

Answer 9

I would go to a therapist and explain this all to them then see a psychologist after so they can look through the therapists notes and decide on a medication that can help with your troubling thoughts. I would say you suffer from paranoia. Medicine could just help calm you down and if you really dont like it you can stop taking it. Im sure you could do a  search on the internet to find some kind of classes that would also help you with this. Good luck.