Do i need to get a life??

Question

People are saying that people my age are "supposed' to be out having fun, getting in trouble, going to parties, hooking up, dealing with drama and being out at night. Well i just spend my days reading books, doing yoga, and going on the computer. is there something wrong with me? I don't see anything wrong with it, and I'm happy not having very many friends. even my mom is pushing me to go out.

What should i tell them?

Answer 1

lol get pregnant and see what your mom says

Answer 2

Who is saying that people your age are supposed to be out doing all those terrible things? Why, it's the teenagers who are doing those things! Do your parents say you should do those bad things? Do your coaches, mentors, relatives, teachers, say you should do those things? These are the people you need to look up to for support. Your parents don't want you to go out and get in trouble, they just think it's unhealthy that you don't have any friends. So go to church! This is the best option I can think of, because you like yoga, and you can meet other kids there who aren't as likely to be bad or make bad decisions. You can go to school dances, proms, events, as long as you don't go to parties where you know people will be engaging in risky behaviors. Nothing is wrong with you, I am exactly the same way. But when school starts, I'm going to get a new outlook. Get some new clothes, get a new haircut, completely change your style. You can still be an awesome person who makes good choices and reads, does yoga, and goes on the computer, but you can also have friends. You shouldn't use liking these things as an excuse. Go to church, I'm sure you'll find some new friends there. And you said you have "not very many friends" which means you must have some. Are they good friends? Do they trust you and you trust them and they won't get you into bad situations? If they are good people, ask them to introduce you to some of their other friends. It's a great way to broaden your horizons and meet new people. When you  go to school, just start talking to people. I know this can be hard, especially with the way teenagers are with cliques and excluding people, but you will find someone who is also quite a loner (with all the books written about this, there must be other people going through the same thing.) and you can befriend them. The most important step for you right now is to go out and get into some healthy friendships.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

If you're satisfied with your lifestyle, then don't feel pressured to change.  I'd say you're better off reading books than hooking up with guys at parties...

Answer 4

Nothing wrong with that. I love reading and being on the computer

Answer 5

Go out and come home trashed.

See if your mom still pushes you after that

Answer 6

Lmao. I would give anything to live the life you're living, but with hyper friends like mine, that'll never happen. Lol but the next time someone tells you that, just tell them, "Well at least I'm not out getting pregnant and doing drugs." You sound like a very well-behaved and balanced kid and that's something parents should be proud of having.

But if you do want to change your lifestyle and get into some more drama, just try to befriend the popular kids at school. They have enough drama to last you until you're in a nursing home.

Answer 7

if you get depressed, something needs to change. you dont have to have a lot of friends, but you should have a couple really close friends, its essential. "going out" is over rated. getting into trouble WAY over rated.... maybe join a yoga group? or some group that connects to you? Learning to socialize is very important if you want to be sucessful, small talk is more important than you think.

Answer 8

i have friends but i don't hang out with them over the summer  

Answer 9

It's not bad for you. But everyone does need some human contact. you don't have to be a party animal, but it is good to at least have a couple or few friends. other than that, if you're happy doing what you're doing, then right on.

Answer 10

same here. I have friends but I don't really want to hang with them much.

Answer 11

nothing is wrong with you, you just need to socialize more with a few friends.  tell your parents they should be lucky you are not the trouble, drugy type. Also, you are smart have a few friends and read you will keep the mind going you will be smarter.   that's my opinion do what you want but I suggest this because I am almost exactly the same but I leave time to hang with friends even if it is just the movies or the playground.

good luck with your decision.

Answer 12

hang out with me.

then your parents will be begging you to stay in :]

ahahahahha