Do i overreact or am i right about this.

Question

Today i have heard from my Step mom friend that today it is my little sister Nikaah [wedding] today. I felt very sad and disappointed that i have to hear this from her and that my sister didn't call me. She is like 2 or 3 weeks in Pakistan and she did not call me once. I did not call her either because i don't have her # from her family side. I did noted her number today. I feel very sad about this that she didn't even call me and tell me she will get marry. I never saw my step siblings as step but always as my own you know.Do i overreact or am i right about this? My Husband said why should you call her she did not even told you that she is going to marry. Should i call her or just leave it and not call her?

Answer 1

You never call her to see how she's doing and your excuse is that you don't have her number, is she on vacation or is she living there now?  But I think she should have said you something to you, talk to her.   Maybe someone told her not to say anything?  Did she go to Pakistan to get married, if so that means she has been planning this and keeping it from you.  Oh and don't listen to your husband, that is bad advice, you should always communicate with people, especially your family.

Answer 2

Perhaps there is a reason she did not call you.  She is in a foreign country which has strict policies on female laws and for all you know she may be prevented from calling home.  Does she want this marriage?  Did she go there specifically to get married?  You must consider the position she may be in right now.  Be sensitive to her surroundings and don't take this to heart.  I doubt that she excluded you for any negative reasons.  There may be more than we all know going on here.

If you have a number to call, go ahead and try it.  (Beware of the time changes.  You don't want to wake up a whole family in the middle of the night).  Call when it is a good time where she is and if you get to talk to her, wish her the best and send your love.  Tell her if she needs anything to contact you and you will do your best to help her.  

Good luck but remember the country she is in has different standards and traditions.

Answer 3

Don't call her.  

Answer 4

I would call her and say, "ya know im still family, and i cant belive you didnt tell me." But say it in a joking way.  Then she will know you are hurt but it will make her feel bad, instead of creating a problem.

Answer 5

it's kinda dissapointing... but u should call her and get over with it instead of worrying...

Answer 6

Both. You are right to be disappointed, but you are overreacting. Just give her a call and congratulate her and take things from there!

Good luck!