Do i stand up for myself or just ignore it...?

Question

so there is this one kid that i go to school with that is always trying to pick fight with me.... like real fights. last night he had his hand on my throat talkin some smack and i didnt really do anything to stand up for myself because i am not trying to get my face bashed in. the thing is, i am in good shape, but definately not ripped or anything (5'11'' and 155lbs) and this kid is a little shorter than me and about 220lbs... a lot bigger than me. and i have never got into a real fight before and i wouldnt know how to fight this kid that is way bigger than me. what do i do? i mean, i know one of these days its going to turn into a real fight, but i will never go rat him out to an adult... im a freshman in college and there is no way i would do that... does anyone have any pointers, weather it be how to take him down fast or what to do, anything will help. thanks a lot

Answer 1

The obvious thing to do when asked in a martial arts section is to take a style. But from what i see these answers are pretty smart.

I don't usually give out tips through the internet cuz it wouldn't work most of the time, but yeah.

Your best bet is to kick him, he's a short boy so when he's close to you, kick to the chest or to the knee, he WILL stop.

Being a Martial Artist myself, i say you should take an immediate self defense system such as Krav Maga. No forms, no time to break the ice, just straight up learn one.

You do not want to be the aggressor in this, so let him throw the first punch. I like how you stay calm, he might as well be a high school kid if he doesn't have discipline in himself.

And don't play into that snitch stuff, if he even touches you then charge him for assault just as said above. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain. It isn't p***y, it's smart.

And stay in a group, most bullies are wimps, heres something you should know.

The ones who talk, don't fight.

The ones who don't talk, fight.

He's the one who talks and can't fight.

And remember, he'll be just as nervous as you if you two ever do fight. Don't judge a book by its cover.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Actually, u should first try and find out why this guy is trying to fight you and how to solve the problem. Find out who his friends are and see if they can talk to him. And if that doesn't who, either find a group that he's messed with and stand up against him or take karate lesson

Answer 3

no brainer hit him hurt him. blind side him use a weapon if you must. remember a brave mans dies only one death a coward dies 1000 deaths

Answer 4

You are clearly not a freshman in college, otherwise you would not be referring to another student as a kid, and you would not be worried about telling an "adult"...

For adults, if someone assaults you (if he had his hand on your throat he has committed a crime), you call the police, file a restraining order, and/or sue them.  If someone who could clearly kick your a$$ is persistently harassing you and the above remedies don't stop it, then you arm yourself, either a gun (with a concealed carry permit), or a legal knife, taser, etc., and learn how to use them.

The other answers all offered good advice.  The eye gouge-knee to groin combo is a good bet, as the above answer said, but that won't win the fight, it will just back him  off for a second or two.  If it comes to a fight, be as aggressive and loud as you can; punch, kick, knee, elbow, headbutt - make him react to your attacks instead of throwing his own.  And being loud will draw the attention of others who can step in and pull him off you if you are getting pounded.  It is possible to beat an opponent who is that much bigger than you, but it would take some serious training, more than any tips you might read online.  I would say stay away from him.

Answer 5

Whoa, a freshman in college?  Colleges and Universities across the country have a zero tolerance policy for fighting, and they are such turds they don't care who starts it.  Now, someone trying to pick a fight with you constitutes harassments, and you are not a kid now you're an adult, and so is he which means, it is against the law.  When you are under 18, no one does any time, so you have to stand up for yourself, or your very health is at risk.

Over 18 though, they expect you to take more responsibility and act all grown up meaning, the hypocrisy being, as a kid they won't apply adult laws to protect you if you are harassed by a bully, and as an adult they will do it because they expect you to be an adult, thing is, by its very nature its pretty much the same thing.

Dude, if that kid has not outgrown that bullcrap just report him to campus security, or whoever takes care of it.  Also, if it does come down to it, just dig deep and defend yourself, but remember; no matter how many times you have to report him, you keep reporting him until it stops.  If he attacks you, despite all the times you reported him, even if its the two of you fighting, because you took the mature approach, he will be the one ending up being thrown out, and not you.

Another option is that you can settle it in a civilized manner.  If your school has a martial arts club, explain the problem, and you can issue a formal challenge dictating that if you win, he has to leave you alone.  Within the confines of a sparring match that does not under a campus rulebook constitute "fighting."  However;

Karate, like Kung Fu, developed in a society governed by stricter rules than this one.  The reason in Karate and Kung Fu they stated to "never use it" is because to use Kung Fu back then in a public place, was a criminal offense.  In fact, countless martial artists in China were thrown in dungeons because of that, for using their Kung Fu in a public place.  China was not the wild west; even 400 years ago, their cities and towns were orderly and governed by the law.

You only use physical force as a last resort, and you only use it defensively, making it a point to actively defuse the sitation every chance you get.  Do not confront him head on, and do not be taken in by his fast talk, always be on the defensive, and your first line of defense is pacifism, take the Ghandi approach.  Take a pacifist approach, and if he decides to attack he'll be the one who looks bad, not you.

Let me tell you something about bullies, and the British who occupied India.  Even if you are the victim, they will use any violent reaction on your part to make YOU out to be the bad guy.  Israel does it to the Palestinians all the time.  In fact, I'm sorry to say this but, white people in general are famous the world over for this, especially Americans.  The purpose of making you look bad, is so that the authorities will see the bully as the victim, that way they can continue to hurt and harass you.  That is why therefore, take a pacifistic stance, decidedly intent in nonviolence, and only physically protect yourself any way you can, no move is out of the question or "too mean" if it comes to that.

But remember;

First line of defense, the college authorities, and however many times it takes to report it, keep doing it until they leave you alone.  If they attack you, even after you reported  it several times it means the college authorities did not do their job protecting you, and if they throw you out for fighting, even though you were defending yourself, you can sue the school.  Know your rights.

Only physically defend yourself as a very last resort, and if even the college authorities won't help, settle it in a ring and get it out of your system.

Hope that helps.

Answer 6

tell him to **** off and go on living ur life, ignoring him,  

if he picks a fight, and u realy dont know how to fight intelligently without using (guns, knifes, or other weapons, that could kill him and get u in a **** load of trouble)

look up ur local mma gym, take akido, bjj or krav maga and fight him off... or learn how to pull gaurd, and go into rubber guard or  another high guard to keep him from punching u until he gets tierd or the cops come and arrest him bc they will see u where the one getting attacked

or u could always punch him in the balls and walk way

Answer 7

Step 1 is to report him to campus security.

Answer 8

Wow can't believe at college level these ********* still do **** like that. Simple solution, just bash his face. If he pisses you off just straight out bash him. But be warned, only do it if you know you can take him. If you can't forget it, try to avoid him.

If you do fight him don't be the slow poke, hit fast and hard. Also use your legs to move around/up & down, don't stay in one place.

Answer 9

Krav Maga. Fast learning style. Once you train in this no one will grab your throat. I don't know how many countless hours I've drilled on throat defenses. Those are the first things you learn. I would actually love for a conflict to start by this method because it would be over before the aggressor knew what happened

Answer 10

Report him to the police and get an order of protection/cease and desist. Make a formal complaint to the college.

After all this, get a pepper spray and if he comes at you, even to talk, spray him in the eyes and call the cops. You will already have a file showing he has been hostile with you.

He's just a big bully.

Teach him a good lesson.

Answer 11

Well you need to stand up for yourself or it will just get worse.  But if your really afraid of getting hurt, just try to stay away from him.  Have a friend or 2 close by.  remember, bullies are usually wimps, all talk and no action, so if he's outnumbered, he'll probably stay away from you.  And although I know you don't want to "tattle" having his hand around your throat is assault.  However, if you don't want the police involved, might I suggest some self-defense classes?

Answer 12

dont wait for him to attack you. as soon as he is in range...hit him in the throat, poke him in the eyes, kick him in the nuts, or all 3. dont f*ck around and show him you've had enough.

dont attack him, but if hes coming, and talking ****...remember those primary targets.

i usually don't condone fighting, but a college student should know better. what is his problem with you? is he just showing off?