Do it with the husband or alone?

Question

So my husband and I are trying to have a baby. We have only been trying for a short while but nothing yet. He is so excited, as am i, but he wanted us to look at the test together so we would both know at the same time. However...i am leaning towards doing the next one by myself because if I see a not pregnant again I will just be so disappointed and I do not want my husband to see that. He is such a positive person and I don't want to turn this experience into something negative for him. I will just be upset for a bit and get over it. If i do it while he is at work he will not be able to see my disappointment if it is negative result. Is this wrong of me? Should I wait for my husband to take the test?

Answer 1

My husband was there when I took the test.  I was going to wait for the  min or whatever the box said before going back in but my husband went in before and came and said I think it is positive! He ended up taking the day off work and spending it with me. We went shopping for bibs that said I love Grandma and I love Grandpa, and told my family that night. The one I took a few days before was negative and he was there too.  It was nice to have him there to hug me. I just knew I was pregnant and was disappointed but he helped me. But it just depends on what is best for you.

Answer 2

I think its such a bonding experience whether the test is positive or negitive.especialy if hes a possitive guy.he can be encouraging if your dissapointed . if its possitive it would be such a kodak momment. The thing that "first response" commerials are made of. Besides its such a rush to see a possitive test result it would be cool to share that moment with somone. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

I would wait for him.. this is his expirence to you both will be heart broken but you will get preg

Good luck

Answer 4

I personally take the test without my husband.. probably because once I start testing, I do it everyday and I would hate to drag him to the bathroom everyday.. haha.

Besides I agree with you, if I get down about it, I don't want to upset him, it's easier on both of us if I test alone.

Answer 5

No its perfectly fine it you want to do it alone. If it is positive, and you think he will be upset, you can just take another one with him.

Answer 6

PLEASE do your relationship a favor and TELL HIM how you feel. If he had to take some kind of test and you wanted to be there for him and he decided not to tell you, your feelings would be hurt. Just tell him how you feel and tell him what options you think would be best for you and allow him to tell you how he feels about it.

Answer 7

do it with your husband, its really sweet that he is excited to!!! as when he finds out you did it on ur own he will prob be more upset, its something u shuld def do together, goodluck!!!!

Answer 8

i think you should wait and do it with him. what if it is positive?! then he will be so upset that he missed out on that great experience of finding out with you.

If it is negative there is nothing wrong with being disappointed and you should just be sad with him so he can make you feel better.

good luck!

Answer 9

You should do whatever the two of you agreed and not go behind his back.  Just tell him that you want to do it this way and why, exactly the way you just explained it here.

It can take a healthy, fertile couple up to a year to conceive.  That's a lot of togetherness over a pee stick.

Answer 10

Once I had taken two tests and they were negative, I took the following months without telling my husband so if it was negative, he didn't have to know about it.  He was getting so excited and then getting so down because we weren't getting a positive yet.  Turns out I was pregnant the last time!!  I just surprised him with it and we were both thrilled.

If he has specifically said he wants to be there - I wouldn't do it without him.

You can risk it and do it while he's at work and then if it is positive, do another one when he gets home but I don't know if you will be able to contain yourself.

Answer 11

my husband and i were the exact same way... there were a few times i wanted to test while he was not there, but i opted not to, just incase it came up positive.  I would feel so bad if i knew before him or had to try lie that i didn't already know!

if it does come up positive, you don't want to be alone anyways... you want to be able to genuinly celebrate with him!

i'd just wait!

best wishes!