Do lots of teens same s*x experiment, or am i the only one?

Question

I am 33 years old, and i have never dated. Dont get me wrong i have always been attracted to females, and constantly check out anything that walks. I even had crushes. The number one thing that kept me from dating is the idea that i had a same s*x experience when i was teen. Back in high school i did not reveal this happening to anyone, and today i am still scared of people finding out. Its a cruel world out there. As a kid i was very shy, and i never would of made a move on one of my friends. If they would of left me alone i would of left them alone. Of course one night at a friends house he started a touching game with me that i could not resist, and it led to sleepovers if you know what i mean. Their was no penetration. Just mostly touching, and grinding. I do realize that because of this experience i will have same s*x temptations the rest of my life like most sexual therapists say. Its kinda like an addictive drug. After i read about the Kinsey scale its nice to find out that most humans are neither 100 percent g*y, or 100 percent straight. They are in the middle of the scale which is bisexual. If i am bisexual i will accept it. Please no rude answers!

Answer 1

From me being a 13 year old teenager to growing to be a 29 year old man. I have always love the touch, the feel and the smell of v****a. I would have s*x with a woman on her period before even holding another mans hand.

Answer 2

You're new here aren't you? Every few minutes there would be a teenager asking about your kind of situation.

Answer 3

give into temptation! you may intern like guys more!

Answer 4

Dearest Friend:

First, please do not let guilt from things you did with a buddy nearly 20 years ago cripple your life.  There is absolutely no reason for you to feel embarrassed or ashamed.  Yes, many boys experiment.  I know I did in college (of course I am g*y and now that I look back I should have realized that back then from how much I liked it).  But I was not the only one.  Of the 40 guys on my floor in the dorm, I seriously would say that eight or ten of us were experimenting with other boys.  That is nearly 25%, and I do not think that is at all unusual.  I believe Alfred Kinsey's research came up with a similar number.  (And I hate to shock you, but probably all those boys were also masturbating!) lol.

If you believe you have done wrong, then I assure you that God will forgive you and you should not stay locked in that prison of fear and guilt.  Do you think that humans are meant to be craven in anxiety and fear?  Certainly not.  Shake those chains off, please -- you don't need them anymore.

On the other hand, maybe you learned something valuable.  Because, the reason you liked that touching game so much and could not resist it, is because you found it attractive and exciting.  That means you have at least some g*y tendencies -- and trust me, that is absolutely fine.

The only question for you to deal with now is, do you tend to be more on the straight end, or more on the g*y end of the continuum?

You need to think honestly about your responses.

-- Who makes your heart pound and your eyes bright when they walk into the room toward you -- a hot girl or a hot guy?

-- When you look into a crowd of people, who do you immediately, instinctively notice first -- cute guys or cute girls?

-- Who do you tend to have crushes on and fall in love with -- women or men?

-- When you m********e (just like all those college boys, yeah, we all do it) who do you fantasize about to get off, males or females?

-- If there were no ethical barriers of any kind, and no strings attached, who would you rather like to snuggle naked with tonight -- a beautiful woman or a handsome guy?

-- Who do your lips really want to kiss?  Who do your arms really want to hold all night?  What does your body want?

Just be truthful.

With me it is simple.  Guys catch my attention.  They make me smile and make my pulse race.  I notice them almost to the exclusion of girls when I look into a crowd.  I'd love to make love with a guy and kiss him.  So, yeah, I guess I'm g*y, lol.

What about you?

If your answers tend to be mostly "girls" then you are predominantly straight.

If your answers tend to be mostly "guy" then you are predominantly g*y.

If your answers are "wow, I love both, either one, both are s**y" then you are bisexual, though most males have a preference, unlike women who tend to be more fluid.

So...just go with what gives you *passion*.  If a girl gives you passion, then go for one!  If a guy gives you passion, then go for one!

But don't let your guilt be a roadblock that keeps you from progressing in life and being happy.

Listen.  If you are mostly straight...a woman will *not* care what you did with another young boy 20 years ago.  That will not matter in the least.  The important question is, will you be really happy and content with a woman, and do you love her so much you want to climb inside of her?

Don't be afraid.  Trust.  Love.  And just go for it!

Answer 5

Mr.rainman, if you want same s*x then go for it, that way you will know if its for you, it doesnt matter, be yourself and be happy.

re your question I expect lots of teens have tried same s*x things but wont admit to it

so stop worrying and enjoy life

Answer 6

Many teens have same-s*x experiences, and it does not mean they are g*y or even bisexual.  It means they are curious.  And it also does not mean you will continue to have same-s*x attractions unless they are natural to you.  If you, at 33, continue to have them, it is not a result of past experimentation, but as a result of having a same-s*x component to your sexuality.   You would have had this whether or not you ever experimented as a teen.  That makes you, to one degree or another, bisexual.  If you don't want to act on those feelings, that's fine.  But your experimentation is certainly no reason not to date a female if that's who you are attracted to.  And the only way anyone will find out is if you tell them.  It sounds like you need to discuss this with an unbiased therapist who can help you sort out your sexuality.

Think about the number of g*y people who 'experimented' with straight s*x before they realized they were g*y.  Why was that not an irresistible 'addictive drug' experience for them?  All it taught me was that I was definitely not straight.  If you have had same-s*x feelings ever since your youthful experimentation, you are not completely straight, either.  And like I said, the experimentation did not cause it.  It just made you realize it.