or the contrary?
how many of you are completely scared (or at least worried) of having kids just because you are afraid they'll turn out mean, or they'll dissapoint you. i just realized with something that happened to my family that parents CANNOT control their kids. i used to think that with the proper education, a child would grow up to be a decent person and used to kinda blame the parents (secretly) if the kid is horrible and respects no one.
but that isn't true.
at some point, they'll do whatever they want and you can't be there all the time to make sure that nobody will influence them?
i'm sure that a lot of parents knew nothing of what their kids were doing when one day they heard about them in jail or on the news because they did something bad.
and you don't have to deal or kill someone to dissapoint your parents, i still remember the way some kids talk to their parents and i keep wondering how did this happen. they're your parents for god's sakes. not your dogs, nor your slaves! the worst thing is that a good person would not treat their 'dog' that way.
it just gets me wondering, how would it feel to go through all that pain and raise a child all these years to have him spit on you some day because you refused to do something he wanted. am i the only one afraid of this?
what about the contrary? aren't afraid that someday you'll mess up and then your kid will remember it all his life and you end up losing him (at worst) or just not being close enough to him because of this?
if you do think about this, how do you think you can prevent it, and what do you do about it?
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