Do marriages survive separation?

Question

My husband wants a separation. He says not a Legal separation, but a break. I'm not sure we'll survive this. In my opinion, if we don't commnicate, we're screwed. Communication is the only way I know how to solve our problems.

But he's not willing to see me or answer my calls or anything. I want him back, and I know we both love each other, but I'm afaid that the time apart will only make our angry feelings fester.

Do marriages survive "time off"??

Answer 1

yes marriages do survive time off. my husband and i had 6 months of time off where i told him to leave me be and just let me figure it all out for me. After a couple weeks of being basically up my you know what and a fight about it he laid low and backed off for awhile. That little time of backing off gave me my time to think and reason and all the stuff we married people need to do. Listen to your instincts, if you feel after awhile that your losing him go after him then and ask him if he had his time to blow off whatever steam he had to or if this is truly what he wants. If this is what he wants then tell him its ok and that you will proceed with divorce papers (i know that might not be what you want but just that subtle bit of confidence and non caring will hopefully open his eyes) If you start to show him that YOU are moving on with what HE wanted the jealousy bug will bite him. Just swallow what you want and do the opposite. DO what he wanted in the first place because once he realizes that you are not bothered by this and that you are not groveling for him to come back he may start to think twice. Just a suggestion of thought that might work

Answer 2

I dont know Im about to find out!

Answer 3

Some do. I hope yours is one of them. Maybe he just needs time to think things through. You're going to have to give him the time he needs to clear his head and come up with what he wants. Try your best not to bother (for lack of a better word) him. Hopefully he will come around. I don't know what happened to put you in this situation but I believe any marriage that can be saved, should be saved. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

You're right. Communication is vital. Maybe not during the separation, if he doesn't want it. Often, a spouse wants time off to decide what they really want to do. Use the time to work out what you want to do. Not that you just assuming you love him because you are used to loving him. His time off is likely for him to decide IF he wants to solve the problems together or solve them by staying gone. You can't decide for him. It often works to consider what it would mean if what you right now seem as the worst outcome. Really think about the realities. You may find it's not as terrible as you imagined. That's not giving up. That's getting to where you cal deal with any outcome. And if you know you can survive anything that could reasonably happen, you're really in a better place to make it work if he wants to try.  

Answer 5

I have not been with my husband for a year and a half now and a have his child he wants us to go  back...................he is pleading.  He miss us so much so it helps to just go away for a long time ..........big time He will miss you more sumtyms men get bored of same things. so give him some space. He wil wonder why u r doing it and he will contact you.

Answer 6

Sure do. It sounds like you have no choice here as your marriage isnt working being together so try the break and see what happens.It may do you some good to. Tell him when hes ready to talk,youll be ready too and then take it from there. Nothing in life or love is guaranteed so pleae dont be too shocked if things dont work out but at least you tried and thats all anyone can do. Good luck

Answer 7

Yes, some marriages do survive time off.  I guess you have to wonder if he doesn't get the time away, will he be more angry.  I think maybe you have to give him a chance to miss you.  I really don't know what your basic problems are though.  

Answer 8

Actually they do sometimes. My parents got separated for a little while and it was great for my family when they got back together. They kept lawyers and all that out of it to make things easier and then they just realized how much they loved each other when they were living apart. Basically they didn't think about their fights and all. They spent the separation thinking about the years when they were first together and stuff and when they first had children and all.  

Answer 9

Well mine didn't, but my ex had an affair an her step-mom put her nose in our business to much also. I believe your right and I think you 2 need counseling, but if he don't want it then you may be on the way out with him COMMUNICATE.