Do men care about their weddings?

Question

Ok so my fiance is acting like there is no wedding,

(our wedding is next year in February)

He just acts like he doesnt care, i asked him to get nice shimmery envelopes and he came back with black envelopes...

I asked him to go look at rings he came back with beer and his mates.

I asked him to find music, he ends up playing a computer game.

WHY DOESNT HE CARE.

he can see i am going mental doing everything and organising everything yet he doesnt care, he doesnt offer to help ANYTHING.

What do i do?

Any other women married or engaged and planning feel this?

HELP PLEASE

Answer 1

Has he appointed a best man?

If so talk to him and get him to 'have a word' with your fiancé.

Both times I've been best man the groom has felt overwhelmed by the fuss about the detail when all they really want to do is marry the woman they love.

Good luck, and wishing you a long and happy marriage.

Answer 2

It may not be that he doesn't care but that he's afraid of making the choices his self.  Plus guys are much less wedding and detail oriented.  

When its just the two of you ask what he wants for the wedding, what he wants to be involved in, and what he doesn't want.  Then I go from there with my friends and family that want to help.

For music, download a list for him and have him listen and pick what he likes.

For rings, go together one day after lunch or before dinner.

Answer 3

Talk to him about how important this is to you and that you'd like him to be involved, and he is hurting your feelings. My fiance helps me out quite a bit, though, I don't send him to do things constantly, he does like to relax sometimes.

Answer 4

I think he should be showing some signs of caring. I don't know about other peoples experiences but I am getting married in less than 8 weeks and my fiance is very interested. I have more to do with the planning obviously but he was excited to be picking out our wedding rings and music, menu...etc. Have you tried talking to him about how his attitude towards it is making you feel?  

Answer 5

Men are not into frou-frous. If he doesn't want to help, go ahead and choose yourself, then when he complains that he doesn't like this or that, say 'You should have said so X months ago'.

Answer 6

Red flag! Ask yourself this: If he won't help with anything now, do you really think he's going to help with anything in the future?

It's true that men don't go crazy about weddings like women do but they should show some interest and help with reasonable things you ask. My fiance has helped with the planning of almost everything.

Perhaps, you should ask your fiance if this is how he sees marriage being and if his answer is yes, maybe you should rethink if you want to live the rest of your life like that.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I'm not saying this for all men but I know quite a few who have gotten married or those who are getting married and to them it more a day for the bride. It's not like they are the one walking down the aisle wearing the nice white dress and all dolled up. The tend to just look forward to the day rather than all the details that lead up to the actual wedding.

Answer 8

Some men are interested, but some men aren't. He may be interested in it but not about all the small organisational parts of creating a great wedding. He was probably hoping to just rock up on the day in a suit with everything else done by someone else, oh and the reception where he can get drunk with he's mates.