Do men feel guilty about "eye candy"?

Question

I am married as is a guy I work with. However he is very attractive, from things he has said I am pretty sure he thinks I am too. I would never do anything to jeopardize my marriage or his. I am very much in love with my husband and and this guy is purely "eye candy" to me. So why do I feel so guilty?

Do men or even other women feel guilty about finding other people attractive?

Answer 1

well, not really.(I'm married)

I dont get attracted to people based on the way they look. Its kind of superifical.

I do however concede, that whenever i meet pretty people, i do get jealous...but thats purely because i know they will be treated differently and i kind of dont like that.

No, i dont get feel guilty because i dont see them in that way and i wouldnt go out of my way to look at there *** or anything.

Ive noticed there are cute features about everyone, more or less.

Maybe you are attracted him alittle more then just, eye candy probably because you know him, from work and he is attractive and you sound like you get a long pretty well. Maybe hes just or a good friend you admire or a crush.

Answer 2

No, I don't feel guilty about eye candy :)

Answer 3

No. You only feel guilty because you find this guy attractive and you both are married. So long as both of you are keeping it under control and both of you understand that this is a pure workplace friendship only, I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 4

No its natural to find the opposite s*x attractive. Even if your married nature still prevails over emotions. Nothing wrong with eye candy as long as thats all he is.

Answer 5

I dunno. I drool over plenty of guys, but I don't feel any guilt because I know that I don't actually want anything else from them. Maybe you just need to work on learning to separate lust from more romantic feelings.

Answer 6

You probably feel guilty because you feel like deep down you think someone is attractive and maybe you associate those thoughts with cheating. I feel that way a lot. It can sometimes hurt to hear that your spouse finds someone else attractive.

However, don't feel guilty.  You shouldn't. Nobody is attracted to just one person. Look all you want, your husband most likely looks....  Just don't touch  :)

Answer 7

I remember my uncle once telling me:" It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home"  Crude, but true.

Answer 8

eye candy is fine because Jimmy Carter said it really cute that says he has cheated only in his heart.  I read that before I was not old enough to really get what he was saying.  Just don't let it go out of line in the looking.  It might be a fine time to rediscover hubby and make a date with your man.  Don't mention candyman on your date at all.  This is all about you two.  If he ever looks and you catch him looking you can give him a knowing wink wink so he knows you are not being hypocritical.

Answer 9

you feel guilty because you have no feelings for your spouse any more

you need to have extra-martial arts s*x to spice up your bedroom

Answer 10

Eye Candy is just that. Normally people don't get the guilty's for finding someone attractive. You have the guilty's because you KNOW you and your coworker have made a connection in which is the beginning of..........

Answer 11

h**l no. Why you're guilty only you can answer. It's your choice to be guilty. Maybe stop flirting with the guy would be a good start. Eye candy and chatting up are two different things.

Answer 12

Any and everybody can find someone attractive but maybe you're allowing it to become more than that.

Answer 13

My sister and I went to a Christian rock festival last weekend, and we were drooling the whole time over all of the eye candy. I didn't feel guilty. But if I thought someone I worked with or saw on a regular basis was hot, I might feel guilty because I'd be afraid it could turn into something it shouldn't. Maybe that's why you feel guilty; you're afraid you might act on the attraction some day.

Answer 14

because your thinking the wrong way, try to get your mind above your belt.

Answer 15

you obviously do not truly love your husband.