Do men find females that smile a lot, wear dresses and heels and shows more feminism attractive?

Question

I am a young female in my mid twenties, and I have noticed that most men out there like women that actually look like women..you know...dress, skirts, heels, v-neck shirts,nails did and the whole nine....

I do not do or wear any of those things..i don't do heels, dresses or nails of any sort..i wear my slacks, my long sleeve shirts and I call it a day..I take my job seriously so I refrain from smiling or laughing at my customers lame jokes..

Any..I have noticed a couple of times that my other co-worker, she is not much of a looker, but she makes it up by dressing really..feminine...I mean, she smokes alot, so her teeth is pretty yellow and she smells of smoke alot..she has very crooked teeth and she is very ghetto, and doesn't have much of a shape..( you can see the veins on her leg when she wears a dress or a skirt) but yet she attracts a lot of men..she stays smiling no matter what she looks like....and i respect her for that..that is confidence...

but with me...many say that I have a nice shape because I am very curvaceous, but I do not like to reveal myself because I am still self conscious..I smile when I need to but not often...

But now I am very jealous because no matter how I try to present my self ( I always wear black or gray, so I tried colors like blue and purple)..but still nothing from the dudes..

So guys..do you really look at a females physical appearance to find her attractive or is it the way she presents herself....I have never felt more ugly then I do right now....

Answer 1

Value of gold and diamonds will always be higher as they are rare. So, if you are a woman who is comfortable with your gender and the way you look or dress, you are a rarity. And you will be valued as such.

Media hyped botox and silicone junkies attract only sexual desire. Nothing else. If you are comfortable in your shoes, it makes a man's life so much easier.  

Answer 2

I like Freedom's answer. She's right, which is something you don't want to hear, but. I mean, I love girls that are simple in dress and aren't trying to show anything off. Just clean, you know? Some guys feel that way, some of which are really great guys like me.

With no disrespect intended toward your coworker, if she's not much of a looker she's attracting almost for sure guys who are desperate and/or not of great quality themselves. I speak the truth when I say that with a great majority of men no looks = no go if they've got any (any) other option.

Edit: Some of the answers are also correct. SMILE. I myself do not have any interest in any girl -unconditionally- if she does not exude approachability. If I get the vibe from her that she's standoffish, nothing else matters. Many guys may be getting this vibe from you.

Answer 3

Presentation means a lot...also you may take into account that some of these guys are just reciprocating the *niceness* with that other woman so they don't come across as being cold to her.

But definitely the outward appearance...smiling vs frowning is going to make a big difference in how and if people feel you are approachable.

Answer 4

Men do like feminine women but it depends on the guy.

I am 21 and I do dress like you describe but my attitude is both tom-boy and genuine. (I don't like to act girly to the extreme, just polite) I've notice what you are saying as well. I guess guys like women that look presentable. It's sad but true.

Every time I am not smiling or frowning a guy goes "smile." But seriously I dislike that because some times I don't feel like smiling.

Answer 5

I think it is a bit of both.  Confidence is the key to attracting most people, men and women a like.  Femininity or not has little to do with it.

Answer 6

Smile, Smile, Smile...and Smile.  Smiles invite people to talk to you.  Also, what could it hurt to laugh at a dumb joke?  Nobody can tell whether you are brilliant, witty, fun and successful if they don't ever meet you because you don't seem friendly.  If you are at work, you should be presenting yourself in a professional manner.  Women's professional apparrel can be very flattering and attractive.

Answer 7

anybody who looks miserable (you don't laugh or smile), wears baggy dark clothes will be avoided prob by males and females.  Also, i've seen some smokin hotties who are so ugly on the inside you just want to make your fingers into a cross and hiss as they walk by.  Some not to physically appealing women who are so genuine and pleasant and caring you can't help but feel good around them.  Try some anger management (s***w the meds though) that may help.  So the answer too your question is its both, but its also a case by case basis.  

Answer 8

You sound like you are like me. I don't dress up for men's attention either. I wear regular pants, shirts, plain flat shoes and miimal jewelry. I rarely wear lipstick or makeup.

I am good at math, computers and science and I don't like whiny overly 'feminine' behaviour or looks.  I sure wonder why guys like the more fake females....

Answer 9

they say clothes makes the man......but i say clothes makes the woman as well.

its all about finding what makes you look real good. something that you are confident wearing and at the same time compliments and accents your beauty, rather than hide or take away from your beauty.

Answer 10

Yes of course, it's not a male thing either its a human thing people like confidence and stuff. Girls most likely would enjoy looking at a guy who shows his muscles with a tight shirt or whatever so yea we like looking at female assets heh heh. Dont dress like a w***e at least throw some guy a bone. Haha bone. Sorry bout that. Yea but just act more confident and smile more maybe wear a skirt.  

Answer 11

Guys you attract by acting silly and being high-maintenance aren't worth getting. This woman you're talking about might just be a ho, so she attracts desperate men.

Heels are pointless unless you are very petite, dresses are inconvenient, and getting your nails done is a waste of money. If you're not used to something, don't do it. If you act like someone else, you will attract someone who is not your type.

Answer 12

The key is smile a lot. That is more important than dress and heels.

Answer 13

The point is to not dress like this or that, but it seems like you give off the vibe that you don't want people around you. No matter how you are dressed that vibe will be felt.

If you want to interact with people more be a little more willing to talk to them. Laugh at a few lame jokes. It couldn't hurt. The thing is on the inside. Dressing femi couldn't hurt, but it certainly won't make a difference if you seem like you don't want to be bothered.

Answer 14

Femininity, like masculinity, is VERY evil.

Men and women should look and act EXACTLY the same.

The serious answer?  Yes.

EX:  Cheerleaders,  Strip clubs,  Miss America.

Men will FLOCK to physical beauty.  They didn't do this prior to puberty, so it is a biological imperative which the man didn't ask for, and can not get rid of.

Let's just say that the world isn't "fair", okay?  

A man's currency is his "beauty".  A woman's beauty is her "currency".

I didn't make the rules, and you didn't either, but pretending they aren't there isn't going to help anything, is it?

Answer 15

oh my, yes we do find women in dresses who smile attractive.

and you know, its only something to put on, Nik, thats all. (it doesnt change you or your convictions, when you elect to "wear" something different (and get a desired effect!))

so go ahead and dress like that, but just keep being yourself while you do because i know how important that is to you, and because i also know that yourself just as you are is someone very likeable.  every time you come on here and ask questions I get a smile, because you have such definite character, and it so shows through!  I find you to be  a really likeable soul...with a lot of convictions (and that shows class and virtue) and is admirable and respectable.

Now surely SOMEone's gonna notice that at some point and he'll get all wrapped up in the idea of befriending you and getting to know you better.

But for that to happen, yea, go with your feelings on this matter and try dressing a bit more like those who succeed in the  area you want to.

And as for smiling, oh Nikki,  i cant imagine anything more important than having a sense of humor and lightness in life.

Perhaps try identifying some favorite comedy you've seen and watch a lot of comedy on tv, for a while...it will change (lighten) your attitude

...you know a smile costs nothing, it DOESNT detract from you "taking your job seriously" -but it does get such good results.

You can make someone's whole day nicer, just because you gave them a smile ----(so, smiles are good for more than just being attractive, ypou can help people feel ok) also smiling -and laughing- releases certain chemicals into your brain and bloodstream which improve your general health and immune system, and LIFT DEPRESSION.

GO WATCH SOME COMEDY.

Do it every day.

Thats the Rx today.

Laughter therapy.  It will make you happy and full of joy (and willing to share it.

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One more thing, hey - dont beat on yourself too hard when you feel frustrated about how things are going right now, because if there's one thing I've noticed about you, it's that youre trying and you're growing (and that takes a bit of time to play out,  but it does mean you're moving, not stuck in one spot without solution or even motivation)  so youre actually in good shape!

And..(hugs) I think youre very attractive Nikki.

...go ahead and use your natural assetts to get the effect you want,

AND GET WHAT YOU WANT!

Let you. It's your life, you can have anything at all that you want, if you'll just simply notice how it is that people get these things done, and then do what they do that succeeded.

Here's a quote:

"Learn from the mistakes of others, you haven't got time to learn them all yourself" (Vanbee)

-and that means just copy what you see that succeeds, so you dont waste precious time sitting in the thinker pose, trying to "figure it out" yourself.

just get in the game and start enjoying it! (you do want to)

                                                      -your buddy, Elmer! :)

Answer 16

It's not your fault if your co-worker wears her skirts too high.

Answer 17

Most guys are attracted to girls that smile simply because smiling is a pretty thing to do.

Smiling means friendliness.....it varies   a lot...i love it when my gf shows that she is happy with a beautiful smile....don't actually care about how she is dressed.

You can dress however you like, and as ong as you are yourslef and you try to give at least hints of sympathy, eventually you will find someone..

  

Answer 18

Isn't it strange that men are attracted to women that are feminine and act like a female rather than the feminized tripe we read about here.

If a women does not act like one, then what is there for a man to admire ?

May harpies like Maureen Dowd is more your style ?