Do men love their kids?

Question

I know this may sound like a stupid question, but honestly do they? You see my father left me and my mother when I was 5 and told me straight to my face that he didn't want to see me or my mother again. And now seeing all these shows like Maury with fathers denying the children that they know they fathered and seeing the rate of children be raised by single mothers in this country I can't help but feel that men could care less about their children. Where I live none of my friends ever see their father. Mostly it's because he left or they never knew they existed or he had other things to worry about. So this just leads me to believe that they don't.

Answer 1

im sorry to hear that...unlike u my children see their father all the time, we live together and are quite a close family!

i myself was raised by my mother..my mom and dad split when i was 11 and my father was fine for about a year or 2 and then decided that he didnt have any children!!

my sisters( i have 2) and i were very upset! and althou i didnt really mind becuz my father was an alcoholic and a good for nothing person, my older sister was very close to him and she went to live with him, but 4 years after my parents divorce my father threw my sister out of the house and lost contact with us, he took my sisters car of her and told my middle(older sister) that she was a mistake...i dont care for him and i have seen him once since all of this happened, he is a lonely old man and brought it on himself!!

not all men are like that though, as i said in the beginning my husband is a great father to his children and spends loads of time w/ them!!

Answer 2

me as a father I love all my kids even the ones that live away from me although I am not able to do all that I would love to I am still there for them as much as possible .

but living with me are my 7 year old and my 19 moth old life is not life with out my kids .

http://www.flickr.com/photos/10889244@N0...

Answer 3

Yes there are some a**hole fathers out there but not ALL men are sorry like that. There are just as many stupid women out there who dont give a d*** about their children also. I'm sorry your dad wasnt in your life but yes there are good men out there whose children are their whole world.

Answer 4

somehow its different from them. my ex says he loves our daughter, but he never seems to want to spend time with her. someday she will have your feelings towards men. my dad however is the greatest...

Answer 5

It's like anything..., some do and some don't.

You can't say men don't love their kids just because of a man who has set a bad example. Just remember it is not as easy for men to show their love, but that doesn't mean they don't. Most men love their kids with all their heart.

Answer 6

Yes but some men don't know how to show their kids their love. It can be subtle or it can be straight forward. I think if more men took the time to bond with their children at an early age you would see more loving fathers.

Answer 7

It does seem like many men in today's society do not love their children, but I think it's more a matter of fear of responsibility.  A child is a lot of responsibility.  There are  men out there who love their children.  I hope that you can find one who will love your children the way you were not.  It is very sad how so many fathers are not involved.  They do not realize the very real impact they can have on their child, for good or bad.

Answer 8

I am a man... read what I  have written and then you judge for yourself.

" Traveling"

...you shall be my kite

and I shall hold the string

if it be your desire...

you freely traveling

place to place

driven by

winds of change,

my hand there

gently guiding you,

securely keeping air

between body and earth.

my grip not too

tight as I gently

loosen the string

that binds your freedom.

I desire...

though it not

be to possess

or to obsess.

tell me little one,

shall I ever

share more than

time with you?

I see you growing

and dream of you

freely roaming

the world,

choosing destinations,

making your path

through various

uncharted junctions.

and I...

a breeze

with a string

in your crosswind of choices,

wishing only

to travel

at your side

as you go,

never wanting to wait

at the destination

of where your journey

meets the end of mine

You are my child

and I your father.

my words reflect

a love in overflow.

Answer 9

My husband loves his children. he'd do anything for them.

my daughter has her daddy wrapped around her little finger. and my sons' hero is their father.

i love my daddy very much, and i know he loves me. I'm a daddy's girl.

i was lucky. i had a father that provided for us, that loved us and told us so. that hugged and loved on us and told us how special we are.

i am VERY sorry that you're father was not such a man. i wish every child could have a father like mine, or my children's.

but to answer your question...Yes. there are MANY father's that love their children w/every fiber of their being.

Answer 10

I love my children more than anything in the whole world and wouldn't leave them, ever. I became a Dad at the age of 17, when I was a selfish heroin addict. My girlfriend left us two weeks after birth and I was left a single Dad. I fought to become clean so that I could be the Dad my son needed. I'm now happily engaged and Father to two more children. I cook, clean, work and take care of all my children. I don't shift responsibility to anyone else and I help out equally. I'm proud to be a real husband and great Dad.

Many men can't face up to responsibility, but it's the same with women - just look at my son's birth Mother. She's now an alcoholic, horrible person and I wouldn't let her have anything to do with my son - even if she wanted to. TV programs such as Maury and Jerry Springer only focus on the bad cases, the primary function of them shows is entertainment. Who would watch Maury if it was about a responsible Father looking after his family just like he should?

Of course men love their children - some don't, but they don't deserve to be a parent in the first place.

Answer 11

Your mom must be an incredible woman. She did it all for you. She had to play both roles. Firstly, as that of a mother and secondly, as that of a father. Whatever you do, don't put the blame on all men. Neither all men nor all women are perfect. It would help if you could forgive your father and let the hurt go from your heart. Don't get angry if you can't do it now. Later on in life you may see things from a different perspective. Bless you. M_A

Answer 12

Some guys can be jerks and leave their children like its nothing. Some girls can also be like that too. It all depends on their heart of what they think about children.

I personally do not have a child of my own but I love kids and I can't wait to have a beautiful baby girl some day.

Answer 13

My husband loves our kids dearly. I guess some men might not. But not all men, I know that much for sure.

Answer 14

men love their children if they are boys. end of story

Answer 15

I am so sorry for your perception. I love my daughter more than life.  I never thought i could love someone so much.  I am very much involved with my wife. I change diapers, take her to play group, i used to get up when  she still got up at night and read to her every night.    I think it makes a difference that my dad was there, I was married , and that we planed to have kids. It did not just happen.  I was ready and wanted kids.

There are better men than the ones in your neighborhood and the ones on Maury. Dads on TV do exist not that great but they are there.   I can't imagine life without my child or how i gotten on before she was born.