Do men really like a challenge and like women to play hard to get? ?

Question

I am nuts about this guy for 7 months and repeatedly he tells me of parties (family & Christmas) he is going to and I am not invited, although I am good enough to spend the night with. I hate games and I feel I am just that. What is your suggestion, should I confront him face to face or just fade away with no confrontation? Either way, it hurts.

Answer 1

I think you should be honest with this guy, tell him how you feel and where you would like the relationship to go... If he is not interested then you know that atleast you gave it your best shot. When you confront him be nice and respectful of his feelings. He is sure to be respectful of yours if he is a decent guy...

Answer 2

you are his booty call my dear

Answer 3

yes i can see where its going to hurt but it will hurt you more to let it continue so confront him face to face and just let it disappear right away without any trouble

Answer 4

Well if I not good enough to go to the family function,I not good enough to go to bed with.If it was me I'll just fade away.Just like my girl Mary J Blige said.And I bet money he come looking for you.And that's when you tell him.Don't ever let them see you weak for them.then they know they got you.Even though it hurts,stand up for yourself.

Answer 5

Honestly, yes it goes both ways (with the hard to get thingy). Hard to get is one thing, but if you get no POSITIVE feedback then it's not worth it. Honestly everyone likes a challenge (back to my video game example). If you have a video game that is so easy to beat...once it's easy to beat....are you going to continue to play it? (Answer should be NO). So then you move on to something that keeps your attention more and provides a challenge. When you do anything in life it feels a lot better when it's not handed to you.

So in the end it means you have to PLAY the game better than him. People that claim they hate games are the ones who just got burned in a game. I think you need to not be so needy, if you like this guy...do what you don't think you should. I suggest that when he calls you...don't jump at the chance to hangout with him. Make him wonder where you are going, what you are doing, and who it's with! You aren't anyone's SECOND BEST...you have to reverse the game and play it twice as hard and don't crack. That is if you are interested in this guy...it takes a game player to beat another one....OUTPLAY, OUTWIT, OUTLAST....

Answer 6

You should brake it off. If he just wants you for s*x, then he's not worthy of you. You need someone who should care for you and really listens to you. He should include you in all activities no matter the stupidity. As long as your invited. If he truly cares about you then he'd let you be with him and not just want you for interaction of s*x. You should tell him or call him to say that its over.  

Answer 7

noooo! hard to get is c**p.

Answer 8

we are all different.

Answer 9

We're all different, however for myself, and I think for the majority of guys, no.  We do not like girls playing hard to get.  I would just move on.

Answer 10

A calm and collected confrontation is probably your best bet, no need for an argument. Simply say exactly what is on your mind and hear his side of the story.

It seems that there may be other things going on that you aren’t telling us. You should never “feel like just a game”. If you do, then it isn’t a healthy relationship for you and it is probably time to get out.

Have a conversation with him regarding what is bothering you and if you still get the feeling he is “playing you” just walk away. It will hurt yes, but it will be better for you in the long run.