Do men really walk away from their children?

Question

Or are they forced out or excluded?

Answer 1

Actually, some actually walk away by their own choice.

Others may be forced out and excluded away from their child(ren).

Answer 2

Um...you can't really be that naive, can you?  You are aware of the "scourge of single motherhood" are you not?  Men walk away all the friggen time.  It's very, very easy, apparently.  My daughter's bio-dad walked away, and so did her step-father.  Neither were forced out or excluded; one was an idiot, the other stuck around for most of her life until we divorced.  I guess he decided that part of the divorce was not seeing the child that called her "daddy" for 18 years of her life.  This question is laughable.  I'm not slagging men in general, but I am slagging anyone who is not aware of the number of men who stick around long enough to create children (or even to help raise children) but high-tail it when physical, monetary, emotional, or other kinds of supports are required for the kids they supposedly love.

EDT:  Yea, I just read the answer above me.  There are two sides to every story...the truth and the bullshit that people tell themselves to help them sleep at night.  The step-father had absolutely no financial obligation to his step-child; upon divorce, I didn't ask him for a ******* cent, and I didn't get one.  I did not expect him to walk away from a child he'd known since she was 1.5 years old.  But he did...couldn't deal with seeing her if he couldn't see me.  Simple as that.  The emotional damage inflicted upon my child has been severe.  I was NOT vindictive upon divorce...I'm living well below the poverty line while he goes on with his happy new life.  In his wake, he left someone who was an innocent party to whatever problems existed between the two of us, and for that he will rot in h**l.  As for the bio-dad, he never had any interest, and I have very little animosity toward him since he at least had the decency to not form a bond with his child early on, and therefore, not devastate her for life.  The step-dad...well, I can only hope someone hurts him the way he has hurt my daughter.  "Men, men, men...it's always men."  Whatever...when we're talking single motherhood, when the question is about MEN walking away from children, yea,  you bet we're talking about men.  Get over yourself.

Answer 3

it depends on the case, a lot of the time men are not ready to become fathers but they have no choice. They are forced to look after a child and alot cannot cope so choose to run away. I havnt heard of many women turning down a helping hand when it comes to their child but I do know of a lot of cases of women havong to fight for support from their childs father. I think when it comes down to it because women have to carry the child when they pregnant some men do not find themselves as responsible for the child because unlike women they can just walk away from it all.

Answer 4

I think the question is wrong. By that I mean this. What does the Family Courts and current legal system do to Father's access to their Children? With exparte Restraining Orders doled out like Candy by Judges. Remember David Letterman receiving one from the Wacko gal in New Mexico? And False Accusations of Abuse without proof to improve their Settlement chances. Men are at a distinct Disadvantage.

Divorce is an adversarial Process, where one Party loses, and generally the Children always lose. Decent Men who love their kids are often told by a Judge that they have no rights, I heard this from the Judge in my Divorce. Who failed to follow the Rules of Civil Procedure in her State. I am fortunate my Ex is a reasonable Person. We did not go to war over the kids.

Many Men are not so fortunate. Some Men are told to stay away from their home and children, under threat of jail. Based on false accusations. The System folks is Broken. It has become a Cash Cow for the Legal Industry, which feeds off the misery of Children and Fathers. Children need both Parents. IF the Father is not abusive, or violent.

There is a Woman whose Husband Divorced Her a Doctor, receiving Spousal Maintenance in Jail. She murdered one of her Children in spite to get even with her ex Husband. He has been ordered by the courts to continue his payments to her.

There is a Father in Spring Texas. Married with four children. After the Divorce the Mother moved in with the biological Father of three of the Children. He is still paying Child Support for three children of another Man. Paternity Fraud is a serious issue for Men.

Answer 5

I think its both. My dad walked away from me. It could have been my moms fault. But when i turned 18 and was away from her Ive tried over and over to have a relationship with him and he wants nothing to do with me.

Answer 6

a person can walkaway from another if there is nothing to hold him with the other party.  

siblings and children walkaway from parents inspite of biological bonding.

since only the women had any say on the matter of giving birth or aborting the children, its her responsibility.  so she cannot walkaway from the children even if there is no bonding.  

it should be made legally binding for all woman who choose not to abort to never abandon her offsprings.

Answer 7

Sadly, some do (I know one as a matter of fact).

But on the opposite side of the coin, I know a guy who's fighting really hard to stay in his kid's life, too.

Answer 8

Some do, but definitely not ALL.  Even some women have been known to walk out on their children.  I do not think somebody is forced to walk away from their child, unless it's court ordered.  I think it's definitely a lack of responsibility and heart for somebody just to get up and leave and not ever wonder what happened with the child.  It is so lame in my opinion.  Like I always, don't do the deed, if you can't accept and take responsibility for the consequences.

Answer 9

only wanna be men do. other times the mothers dont want them in their lives at all for different reasons. in the end, the kids are the ones who suffer.

Answer 10

Some men walk away, some men don't know they have kids and some men are too irresponsible to have kids.

While men should not walk away from their kids.. women should not have kids with losers. I never feel sorry for single mothers. They made a bad choice and now they have to deal with it.

While its irresponsible to walk away from your kids, its equally irresponsible to have kids when you and your partner are not ready.

Answer 11

I have known men and women who have walked away from their children.  Forced and voluntarily.

Answer 12

Unfortunately, some really do.

Answer 13

Yes They do. They are they typethat feel bad about themselves so when they leave a baby to a women he thinks " HAHA that %#@ is stuck with a baby while I'm out having fun ". This sometimes makes them feel tuff but realy they are weaker than ever

Answer 14

Sadly , sometimes mothers take their children away from their dads . It works both ways .

Answer 15

"40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse." (Source: p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991.)

"Overall, approximately 50% of mothers "see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children...." (Source: Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125)

"The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children." (Source: Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991.)

"A clear majority (70%) of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol Lowery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984.)

Answer 16

I think men walk away from bad marriages. But unfortunately some men believe that the mothers have all dibs on the children and therefore feel helpless in trying to provide for or even visit their children after the divorce.

I think our society really pressures men to do well at work and provide for the family instead of spending time with their family. Our society believes that if he doesn't provide for them then he is considered a failure. However, that is not going to do him any good when the family dynamic breaks down because of his absence.

I think men can be forced out of their children's lives but only because they don't have the resources to cope with a system that is so conventional it doesn't consider fatherhood as important as success in the workplace.

Answer 17

men make the decision most of the time if they want to be part of the kids life.. sometimes the wife is crazy and runs.... any boy can make a daddy.... but it takes a man to be a daddy... well good luck

Answer 18

i dont think the word commitment means anything see so many women walking around with babies here no dad in site'

Answer 19

Some do because they are not ready to be a father. but many of them are forced out by the courts and by the wife. I have seen women walk out on their kids many of them do this. but then again some women are forced out by the court. not  a very pretty picture is it?

There are lots of fathers who want to be in their child's life. and they are be held back and kept away from them. many fathers have to go years through courts just to see their kids. this to me is child abuse. if a father or mother is unfit then give the  child to the right parent NO matter the gender.

Many Men are not ready for the child so they do walk away. they have no contact with their child that is their choice. and many Women have done this to their kids.  again this is a HUMAN problem NOT a gender one. God Bless

Answer 20

It depends on the situation and the individual.  Sometimes they are forced to walk away and sometime they are 2 selfish to stay.

Answer 21

Yes on all three. Some men dont feel emotionally bonded to their kids so when problems arise, they dont give it a second thought and walk out.

If the wife is adulterous then I can see the father being pushed out or excluded after a divorce (or maybe even before).

Answer 22

some walk out, some are pushed out and some are legally made to leave by the law, and the smae goes for some mothers

Answer 23

What do you mean by excluded? And why its about only men? even women walk away from kids.. Basically its circumstances that makes men or women to leave or quit. Some are tied up with love life and some are with money. Public figures have their own problems.Its all blaming game where children suffer.

Answer 24

Sure they do. Some men walk away and never look back, but some men ARE forced out and/or excluded.  Men are probably more likely (imo) to walk away, but some women do it too. Each person is different.

Answer 25

My father wanted to party; he thought that the new man in my moms life was better for us; he wasn't.  Yes I know that he is partly to blame for my dislike of the sexist male.

Answer 26

Men, men men. It's always men.

My ex wife was so wrapped up in her own life she completely excluded her daughter. I raised her myself. She's doing great now, and has taken my wife as a second "real" mom.

It's not gender, and let me tell you, when it comes time for divorce, women are VICIOUS. They always talk about their deadbeat husbands, but do everything that can to keep their kids away from them, and soak them for as much money as they can get. So every time I hear about "deadbeat husband" I listen with a grain of salt: THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES and you will seldom get to hear the other.

Yeah there are irresponsible men. There are just as many irresponsible women, but they get to hide behind the courts which, in most states, side with the women.

Answer 27

most of the time i think the wives say: stay away from my children, then tell everybody else that he left the family. so she does not look like the bad guy in the situation, when she really is.:(

why?

Answer 28

well obviously there are endless circumstances. but yes, men walk out on their families all of the time. if you go to a school and did a study of this, about 30, maybe 40 percent of the kids probably never met their dad. women abandon their children also, but it's more common for a father to walk out and never come back when things get too tough.

Answer 29

Sometimes they do but most of the time they are simply excluded and if the ones that are excluded aren't very loving or responsible they won't fight to see their children; they'll lap it up and use it as an excuse when judgement comes their way. (by the way i'm 16 and haven't been in a similar situation-i just know a lot)

Answer 30

what?

whether forced or not , they still walk away

and no

they are not men if they walk away from their CHILDREN , they are pigs.