Do men who say they want submissive wives have any idea how selfish they are?

Question

Do men who say they want submissive wives have any idea how selfish they are?

Answer 1

He gets a certain type of woman, who agrees with his point of view, leave them to it. Marrying these like-minded people off makes it easier for other people to meet up with a more open-minded person.

Answer 2

How wonderful of you to hit the nail on the head!  I guess what they are really saying is, I must be surrounded by a sycophantic wife and children who knows less than I do and tells me every thought in my head is brilliant, because I am not strong enough to counter any argument, and am unable to back up my thoughts with proof.  I am a god on earth and I want a slave to take care of me and fix my food, clean my house, and belong to me, in the same way that I love my dog and it belongs to me.

I also want my children to be exactly like me so I can bask in the reflection of my own perfection every time I look into their eyes.  

I want to go out and do work that has a monetary value, but I do not want my wife to have that satisfaction, because I want her sense of self value to come totally and exclusively from the encouragement I give her for doing things that please me.  In the same way that a new army recruits self-esteem is broken and rebuilt during boot camp, I want to belittle my wife at the beginning of my marriage, isolate her from her friends and family, until the only social interaction she has is with me and the children, and possible from a church that tells her every week how great she is because she has given up on pursuing her own personhood in order to enrich MY LIFE!

Answer 3

It's selfish when the reason he wants a submissive wife so she totally devotes her life to him and caters to his every whim. That's because in such relationships, these women get little or nothing in return. It's all about him and him only.

Answer 4

I think it's something a man needs to keep to themselves. When a man says that I think he is boasting about  having a maid or a s*x slave. Men should talk positively about their wives.

And to those that don't agree to this what would you say to a woman that went around saying that their husband was submissive? And don't say it's not the same thing because it is.

Answer 5

Yeah my mom is like that to my dad.

And it bugs me because she can't give her

Own opinion on anthing because he'll

Get mad.. I agree with you

Answer 6

I am sorry to keep telling you this but you are very sexist and small minded. Many women want a dominant man, many women want a submissive man and visa versa. Me? i like girls who are feisty, submissive, insane and kinky, what does that make me?

Answer 7

Could you please explain to me what exactly makes it selfish?

Selfishness occurs in ALL relationships, it's not something you find solely in one gender or one relationship.

Selfishness also has differing degrees.

Is wanting a submissive wife EXTREMELY selfish or just somewhat selfish?

You ask a question you don't really want a legit answer to. This question has an offensive premise and only seeks to encourage others to bash on people who want/are in submissive relationships.

Answer 8

Not all Men want submissive wives. I for one never have. Both of the Women I have been married to are very feisty and assertive Women. My ex wife is and so is my current wife. She has no problem standing up for herself and I respect that about her. Some Women prefer a more passive Male. Are they wrong in preferring that? And who put you in charge? Feminists continue to demand that Men adapt to a certain mindset or way of thinking as approved by them. We are a free society and if a Man and Woman are happy together who cares what you think?

Answer 9

That is absurdly ignorant and would you like to brush that chip off your shoulder?? Often times men who desire a submissive feminine wife are willing to do tenfold the work and effort of an egalitarian and politically correct relationship to keep it mirthful and peaceful but they likewise expect a woman to be altruistic and giving in return as a mutually cooperative thing. You seem like a rather irascible woman and you have reduced the complexity of human relationships to very simplisitc terms. Some women involved in BDSM enjoy being submissive as their needs are also met within such a relationship and they would not be in a standered homogenous marraige.

EDIT: I truly think you are imagining cynically the worst possible scenario of a dominant husband and submissive wive relationship when alot of the women on here who would like to be submissive to a man are not viewing it in such terms. Yes there are the abusers, but equivalently there are the lovers who merely want to complement each other and who get more out of such a relationship then any other kind of lifestyle.

Answer 10

Let me guess, women have the right to exercise their free will and choose any man of their liking, and you have no problem, yeah? But when a man does it, he is "selfish", "a male pig", and "an oppressor".

So let me ask you this: do you have any idea how selfish YOU are telling these men what they want?

Answer 11

The asker assumes that by the wife being submissive it means she will have no self of her own and be all about pleasing him instead.

I'm a bit mystified as to why everyone didnt understand that premise right off.

Now...before you all make these one thought covers everybody conclusions on this, do you consider that not every woman wants a two pants household? Since I've been here it has become quite apparent to me that some women WANT to be submissive,or traditional, and for them THAT IS being themself fulfilled.

Sorry if that doesnt sound wonderful to YOU. But if thats what an individual woman wants,  she has every right to her preferance.

Answer 12

It's not selfish in the slightest. Submissive people need and crave a dominant lover. They are complimentary to each other.

Everyone needs different things from a relationship. Don't be judgmental of things just because they are not your own preference.

Answer 13

Are sharks selfish when they eat a school of fish?

its survival girl and the day i meet a woman that isnt submissive yet not a stuborn prude then I might actually keep her but until then you women are just little fish to me and I am having fun eating you all up ;)

Answer 14

I guess if a woman wants to have a career and a family she's selfish, but it's not so if a man wants all of those things with a wife he can boss around.

It's amazing how even a lot of smart women don't see this double standard!

Answer 15

My boyfriend and I benefit equally from our relationship, and we're very happy in our roles. It may not work for you, but there's no need to put down other people's choices.

Answer 16

No, and neither do you. You think they're selfish, i say selfless ( and yes, i see selflessness as a terrible thing). they're selling themselves short.  Thanks for the flaming fuel, though

Answer 17

If men want submissive wives then that's their choice, explain to me how that's selfish?

I agree with MR. Teabag, its only selfish if hes using her to do his cooking and cleaning, and sees her as weak, but if he likes submissive women just out of attraction then that would be ok.

Answer 18

Probably not. But does it matter if they're selfish or not? Maybe there are women that don't want to be dominant! If that were so, then wouldn't it be okay for them to be in a relationship? I think it would be a win-win because they'd both be happy. Personally I couldn't be friends or in a relationship with a man who wants a submissive wife, but as long as he's not hurting anybody, then who cares?!

Answer 19

There's somehting worng with them. I couldn't tell you what but they are wrong. They are pieces of **** and don't deserve a girl in the first place.

Answer 20

let them say it....let them wear little name tags.

lets the good women know who to leave alone.