Do mental health issues make it difficult to have a healthy, steady marriage, or any intimate relationship?

Question

How can we sufferers improve the relationship & make it last longer? If I suffer OCD, depression, anxiety, & Tourette's, that turns many men off. & yes, I have low self-esteem & low self-confidence, but I'm working on getting better. & I know I'm insecure about myself. But some of these traits are the symptoms of the disorders. OCD-asking for reassurance all the time. Many people say I drive others crazy w/ my uncontrollable OCD rituals, & they find my Tourette's tics offensive.

How could I ever obtain & maintain a boyfriend, then we get engaged, then married, & stay married, & have kids, etc. & for him to understand my situation, & tolerate me? No one has patience with me, but I hear how some people have Bipolar, & their spouse might cheat, & they still forgive them & love them unconditionally, no matter what their mental illness is.

Answer 1

I'm wondering how old you are.

The first step is to know you're worth loving, you deserve it, and although you know life won't be easy for your partner, it's not easy for you either, and who ever said life is supposed to be easy?  Also don't forget no one is perfect and your future boyfriend won't be either.  Whose to say it won't be you who decides he's not good enough?

I have bipolar disorder and identity disorder due to early childhood trauma.  It took many years to realize that not only do I deserve to be loved, but I have a lot of love to give.  

Don't go into a relationship with the attitude that your boyfriend deserves better - or that he's going to get upset about your problems.  He's not going to be perfect either.  And I guarantee, there are a lot of guys out there not worthy of you.  You'll see, you'll be just fine.

Answer 2

Anything is possible.  If you take care of yourself and your situations.  Take your medication, go to therapy, see your Dr., have people around you who support and love you then you can have a relationship and marriage that can work.  As far as if a spouse cheating and forgiveness that is completely up to the couple. If you love someone enough and you can work through the issues together and are willing to go that extra mile then yes that can happen.  People can love people unconditionally, no matter what.  It takes two.  You just have to find the right person and then you have to work with that person to help them to understand what it is you need them to do to help you so that your relationship can work and last.  Good luck!!!

Peace & Love  :)

Answer 3

Dont worry u are who u r