Do military men most likely to cheat when they are out in service?

Question

Do military men most likely to cheat when they are out in service?

Answer 1

sadly yes. espeialy if they are sent to asian countries (south korea , china...) the us military spend more money on kondoms then bullets sent to the asian zones.

Answer 2

I think it all depends on who you surround yourself with. If you hang out with pigs, your bound to act like a pig to be part of the group. "What goes TDY, stays TDY" wasn't made up for nothing. I think if you have any moral fibers in you and the people you call friends are decent/moral people then you are a more apt to act faithfully. Everyone in the military isn't a cheater and neither is ever military spouse. That said yes some do cheat and some don't. If you worry/accuse that he will and don't give him the benefit of the doubt, he might as well try to prove you right. Why don't you try approaching it as "My man won't cheat on me, he is not that kind of guy. He's better than that." Let him prove you right in that situation...

Answer 3

Some do, but then again, some guys who aren't in the military cheat.  The biggest problem for soldiers is their girls who are home who can't keep their pants on.  Don't worry about him cheating, worry about staying faithful.

Answer 4

My husband has never cheated and we have been married 16 years and hes been in the Army 15 years so far, nor have any of my friends or their spouses. So to all the people that say yes they cheat, they have no clue what the h**l they are talking about, not all soldiers/spouses do. Now Im sure there are plenty that cheat, just as there are plenty of civilians that cheat. Once a cheater always a cheater, uniforms dont make a difference.  And as far as the FRG goes, I agree with the above poster...I learned my lesson many years ago that the FRG is just a gossip group and I stay away from them completely. When my husband deployed to Iraq for 15 months I stayed 110% faihful, I love my husband with all my heart and have no reason to ever even think of cheating on him.

Answer 5

My husband is active duty and it is amazing what will happen when you are not with your husband! I have (or thought I did) a strong marriage, rock solid for 10-years and it happened to me!  You could have blowed me over with a feather, I would have never imagined it . . . but it happened.  I think that it has to be "in you" to cheat and no man / woman could ever lure you into ruining your marriage. If you sincerly love someone with everything in you, you will never stray in your relationship.  Those that stray are willing to take the risk of losing their family, and making that decision to do so has consequences.  Remember, one night of pleasure can bring you a lifetime of pain!

Answer 6

depends on if they have woman around them, i was a combat mos so no woman,  i didn't even have a chance to cheat,  the real question is will you cheat

Answer 7

I agree with some of the previous answers and don't agree with most.  To the guy that says most military women aren't attractive he needs to look again.  Could say more, but will not.  As for the historical data and what has happened before you could look at that as a reason to believe your question.  You could also look at how strong your relationship is now and how long you have been together.  I have seen soldiers cheat, spouses cheat, boyfriends/girlfriends cheat but I have also been in a unit now for the past 4 years and all of the married soldiers have been in the military for over 14 years and do not cheat.  They have strong relationships and children in their lives.  I was married to a military man and he cheated however I was young and he had cheated with me on his other girlfriend but I was totally in love and thought that I would be the changing factor, bottom line we are now friends he is retiring and I realized that I should have listened to my gut.

Cheating can happen to anyone, anywhere in any forum.  The military is in the press so much that America forgets that we have worse things happening in your backyard that nobody talks about.  So military or not cheating can happen.  Long distance relationships can work but are very hard to last, when kids go to college the same temptations occur as it would anywhere else.  You just have to decide the worth of the relationship and if he does cheat are you going to accept thinking about it everyday or move on to build a strong relationship with someone that will not cheat.  Your profile says you are 19 yrs old, honey live your life without regret.  Have a good time without getting crazy.  Don't tie yourself down now because great things are to come your way.  Do not let anyone tell you what to do, you know the answer, listen to your gut feeling and make a decision and don't wavier on it.  Take a stand to conduct yourself in way that will make your friends and boyfriends want to be that way also.  If you don't you are begging for the same treatment.  

I hope this helps.  Last thing, letting God lead you in your daily decisions will help you find peace with this question.

Answer 8

In TDY/TCS situations, I have yet to see a married soldier NOT cheat on their spouse. I'm referring to deployments where there are women, other than servicewomen, that are available for sexual contact.

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Answer 9

Some cheat, some don't. Some military significant others cheat, some don't. Some civilians cheat, some don't.

Just because they're military doesn't mean they're necessarily going to cheat. My boyfriend has yet to cheat and trust me... He's had plenty of opportunities while stationed abroad or stateside.

Answer 10

As you can see that question makes people very defensive and you get a lot of "of course we don't but the other spouse does...."  Which isn't very helpful.  If you look at historical records from past wars you see the same thing:  service members saying "no, I didn't cheat" in high numbers.  Yet you also see high numbers of them being treated for venereal diseases.  You see the reverse in the spouses at home except in high pregnancy and illegal abortion rates.  So, yes, I believe based on past historical data that living apart like the military often demands gives both spouses a huge number of opportunities to cheat.

Does that mean you'll cheat?  Does that mean your man will cheat?  Not necessarily.  Only the two of you and your moral character can decide that.  There is some truth to what was said above, "if you hang with pigs you'll act like one".  More politely put you are known by the company you keep.  So it's important for both spouses to choose their friends with care.  You want to befriend people who will not take you into situations that would make cheating easy.  You want to be aware of what you're thinking and feeling so you can nip those "too friendly" feelings in the bud if and when they happen.

It's also important to "cheat proof" your marriage as much as you can.  Talk to your spouse.  Good communication makes for a better marriage.  And even talk about cheating.  It doesn't help to keep the subject shut away.  If you're talking about it then you know where he stands and he knows where you stand.  You also find out what exactly the other person considers crossing that line which can be important.

Answer 11

Truthfully- you are the only one that knows the answer to this question.

Is your husband the type that is 100% faithful or does he have a wandering eye already? The military doesn't "cause" men or women to cheat, they just use it as a crutch.

I may be lucky though, the whole "What happens on TDY stays on TDY" thing doesn't work for my husband-we're in the same unit!

Really, it just all depends on your relationship and how well you and your husband communicate and how faithful you are. If he tells you he didn't cheat- believe him. That's all you can do. While you're at it, you don't cheat either...then you guys are golden!

I wish you lots of luck and love :)

Answer 12

Being in the military I can tell you this.  When your spouse is deployed they have very little chance to get with anybody.  And also being a military male I can tell you and most of my friends would agree with me here are that most women in the military are not attractive at all.  Now on the flipside of the coin.  Military spouse dependents are notorious for cheating while their significant other is in harms way.  When I was stationed with the 25th ID we called our FRG the family divorce group.  My wife will not have anything to do with them ever again.  Less than 8 hours before we were wheels down in the states the FRG leader had another man in her bed.  And she wasn't the only one.  It is disgusting.

Answer 13

I was in the military for 4 years and yes 100% of the relationships my friends had, they cheated on their WIVES/ OR the ones they dated or vice versa. ive seen the worst, lies, watched married friends cheat. relationships dont last between 2 people without the one in the service messing around on the other unless the other one forgives! good luck 2 you.

Answer 14

The question you must ask do you cheat when your mans on military service?Remember the movie jar head when his wife sends him the video of her rooting the next door neighbour.I reckon some guys cheat.