Do most parents encourage their kids to wait until marriage to have s*x, or say 'just use protection'? ?

Question

Do people want their kids to wait 'till marriage, or just tell them to use protection when you do end up having s*x?

Answer 1

I don't know about most parents, my parents have always encouraged my to wait until marriage.  Although it doesn't take much encouraging, because I've already promised God and myself that I'll wait till marriage.

Answer 2

uhm... well my mom encourages me to have s*x.... these are her exact words "Why wait until marriage? Its fun... What if you married somebody and then realized that you hated having s*x with them?" Of course my mom isn't like most parents... And I'm pretty sure im gonna wait until Im married anyway!  

Answer 3

I don't know what MOST parents do.

However, I encourage my children to wait until they are married from the moment we start talking about s*x, and I explain why I think it's a good idea to wait.

I then monitor them in the early teen years to make sure they aren't in situations (home alone, at someone's house without parental supervision, etc) that would be conducive to early sexual activity.

When they are later in their teens I remind them I think they should wait until they are married to have s*x but if they do decide to that they should please use protection to avoid STD's and unwanted pregnancy.

I don't think these two ideas are mutually exclusive.

Answer 4

Too many parents preach abstinence only and say " you need to wait until you are married."  Parents need to teach both.  My parents always taught us "we prefer and encourage you to wait until marriage, but if you do become sexually active you can come to us for help or advice.  We would rather you be informed and embarassed instead of unprotected and misinformed."  That is all it takes really.  Parents need to realize that teens rebel and dont listen.  If a parent says "I dont even want you having s*x until your married" then the teen will be afraid to go to the parent for birthcontrol, help or advice.  Then the teens will be afraid to go out and buy condoms for fear of being seen and caught.  Parents think teens are so misinformed of protection, they are not.  They know what goes on and what they need, they are just scared to get it because of how parents are trying to force their teens to wait.  It doesnt work that way and when parents think it does, then they are in for a rude awakening.  THen when their children get an STD or pregnant, they blame everything else instead of themselves.  Communication is what it takes.

For my children I will encourage them to wait, but I will also rather them be informed and not afraid of me.

Answer 5

it depends on the parents i say

Answer 6

I would want my daughter to find the right man for her before she gives it up. I would want to meet him first, invite him over for dinner, get to know the real him, and all that. I would like if my daughter/son would stay virgins until marriage but its their life and if they're ready physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially, then its whatever. They just ahve to be ready to prepare for the conquences

Answer 7

I would just like my boys to wait until they graduate high-school and have a good job.  With the rate of divorce in today's society marriage isn't something I would push on them but I do say that they need to be in a committed relationship with the person and be aware that a pregnancy can occur so to make sure they are ready for that.  

Answer 8

obviously any good parent that cared and wanted what was best would want them to wait until they were married, but too many just give up too easily and say well just make sure you're using protection.  

Answer 9

my mother didn't say anything to me which is probably the reason why i lost my virginity in the 9th grade

Answer 10

everriibodii jus tells me to use protection

Answer 11

I encourage my teenagers (14 year old boy & 13 year old girl) to abstain from s*x until marriage. Realistically speaking though, I know they probably won't. That's when the "use protection" talk comes in.

Answer 12

I'm not going to lie to myself and say that it isn't going on as now a days its rare to wait for marriage, so I stress protection, and that you do it with someone you love.

Answer 13

I wouldnt never dream of talking to my dad about that kinda of stuff, but mom always tells me to wait til marriage.. She jokes as if it would be horrible if i ever did it before marriage... Im fine with waiting, cause i do want to be in love with person i have s*x with but it makes me feel as if i have less freedom to make my own choices on that topic....... When i do have kids i dont really know how i'll be, as long as they are safe and not just doing it to do it, but im not sure how'll i'll treat the subject.

Answer 14

i say it 50/50

but i would tell my kid to wait until there out of school so they don't mess up their life by getting pregnant.

even with protection its not a 100% effective even use correctly

Answer 15

MOST parents like to think of their kids as asexual.

Answer 16

My daughter is still little, but i will teach her about keeping herself safe.  Of course i would love for her to wait until she is married or in a long term secure relationship, but that is just not realistic

Answer 17

Who wouldnt like there kids say virgin until there marriage i think everyone does but its also good to know to always use pretection  

Answer 18

nowadays, it's "just use protection"

Answer 19

I've never had "the talk" with my parents and I'm past that age, haha. But I'd imagine IF they could imagine me actually being active, they'd want me to at least protect myself. Personally, I plan to wait until marriage - not a choice they made me make.

Answer 20

my parents never said anything

ive never even had "the talk' with them...i dont need to have it tho..tht would be hella awkward..lol (im 15)

i kno about s*x and all tht stuff..but they never told me to wait,and they never told me to use protection

Answer 21

My parents aren't even that religious but they are really strict about s*x after marriage. They have never even talked to me about protection because they think I'm going to do it after I'm married. I do think it is a really good idea to do it after you're married for a lot of reasons but it's your choice and if you decide to do it before you're married, always use protection.

Answer 22

my parents have said its my choice when i ready, just make sure i use protection....

ive been on the pill since i was 14 aswell, cos my mum wanted 2 make sure.

Answer 23

I would make sure my daughter knows everything about being protected and safe that's it because in the end your child will end up making their own decision about it anyways. If you want to encourage your child to wait until after marriage good luck but like I said they will do what they want in the end.