Do naturally generous people become magnets for users and needy people?

Question

I'm naturally generous but I find myself "calibrating" my generosity so that I don't lose myself completely. The vibe I'm giving off lately to people (everyone) is that I am a generous person who intentionally CALIBRATES my generosity. This is my way of keeping the needy people and the users at arms length. LOL. Is that bitchy of me?

Answer 1

I would definately agree....

I am nice, friendly, kind, generous..... and find myself being flypaper for freaks.....

When I intentionally give off a different vibe, I get peace.

Answer 2

You will gravitate to a form of generosoity that fits your personality.  I am donating directly to people today.  Sometimes they appreciate it; other times they don't.  It can hurt my feelings but i just keep going. /

Answer 3

no not bitchy at all...sometimes people take advantage of generous givers...especially relatives...keeping the users at arms length is the way to go