I was with a man for 6 years and we were about to get married when he said he was feeling homesick (he had moved with me 3500 miles across country) so i sent him home for Christmas. He called me and told me he was never coming back and later i found out he had cheated on me on a regular basis. You can imagine how messed up i was after this. Anyways I met a wonderful man and we got married. But i seem to be really emotionally needy these days and I never used to be. I was so trusting in my previous relationship and never really saw the signs that he feel out of love with me or that he was cheating. I just thought our relationship was becoming comfortable and the passion had died down a bit. Now in my new relationship with my husband I seem to be really frightened all the time. He is the most romantic man I have ever met, calls me during the day to tell me he loves me, surprises me with flowers, tells me I am beautiful etc....just amazing. But when life seems to get crazy and we don't spend a lot of quality time together (getting comfortable feeling) i seem to go nuts, i get all scared and wonder if he has lost passion etc....scared he will fall out of love or find somebody else. he has never given me a reason to think this ever. these crazy feelings go away if we spend a romantic night together or something but what i want to know is how the h**l do i make these thoughts go away. they drive me nuts all the time. any advice would be really helpful. thanks
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i have kind of talked to him about it a bit, he knows that I am a bit insecure with things and told me that he would wake up every morning and tell me he would never fall out of love with me or leave me....i believe he would do that too if i needed him to but i just want to make the thoughts go away. it is not as easy as just telling myself to trust things.
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