Do parents care about thier children behavoir in school?

Question

cause im14 and ive been suspened 5xs for fighting

Answer 1

I'd think so. It's a pretty big part of being a parent to care about your kids and how they're feeling and what they're getting up to! Just because you go to school shouldn't stop them being responsible for you - that's still their job, not the school's!!

My siblings and I are all home-educated and have never been to school so I don't really know but I do know your parents are still your parents, the school is just like a Nanny. They're supposed to take reasonable care of you while you're there but ultimately you're still your parent's responsibility regardless of where you are and who you're with.

All too often though it seems there are some parents who are very happy to (as my dad says): 'give birth to a child and then announce that the Nanny (ie the state, schools etc) can bring the brat up' (!!!). That doesn't mean that's what your parents are like though: it might be that deepdown they do care really but don't know what to do to help anymore especially if you've been suspended five times, they might feel they've run out of ideas; or maybe they feel they didn't learn how to do that stuff from their parents and they want to care but don't really know what they should be doing; or they want to bring you up differently from how your grandparents reared them. If their parents were mega-strict with them maybe they want to cut you the slack they didn't get when they were your age and just don't realise they're cutting you heaps more slack than you actually want them to!!

Have you tried sitting them down and talking to them? And telling them how you feel and what you want them to do different? Do you even know why you keep getting into fights? Have you told them why it happens? Do you know what you want from them? To be more supportive? Stricter? Tougher? The fees for an anger management course? To go to the doctors cuz deepdown you're actually not feeling that great about yourself?

Maybe you should try sitting them down and telling them outright that you need their help to sort out whatever it is that keeps getting you in fights, be it a problem with the other kids at school, the need for self defence, bullying, your own temper or just your attitude and behaviour towards other people.

Answer 2

I would be concerned about your behavior in school and out of school.   Fighting is wrong.  The teachers are there to protect you and you should not have to fight to protect yourself.

Answer 3

Depends.  Some do, some don't.

The parents on here probably will...but this is the homeschool forum, and we've dedicated a whole lot to raising our kids - so much so that we've taken full responsibility for their educations.

However, I know plenty of kids who lie, cheat, steal, fight, cuss, etc...and their parents either don't believe a word of it or don't care.  Nice.

Answer 4

Of course we can how you act in school. Its a reflection on our parenting skills.

Answer 5

A lot of parents do; many, unfortunately, come across as not caring. It sounds like yours don't and you'd like them to, given your recurrent behaviour and your answer. Sometimes parents seem to not care when it's really just helplessness on their part--they have no idea what to do about it, so they don't do anything and leave it up to the school to deal with the behaviour.

Even if you feel unable to have your parents care about what you do at school, care enough about yourself that you don't engage in any behaviour that lowers your character. You deserve so much more than that.

Answer 6

unfortunately I think a lot do not.  Mostly because they are immature themselves.   They are happy to be 'free' of responsibility for 6 or 8 hours and don't want to be bothered with it.   They take the "it's the schools responsibility" mentality and don't step in themselves.  

Or - the parents are the same way - bullies themselves.  

I have seen some parents that really do care about their kids - and you can tell.  

Often the ones in the most trouble are the ones crying out for help the most ---