Do parents "get over" things they can't get for their kids?

Question

Do parents eventually get over things they cant get for their kids? like college for example

let's say their kids wants to be an actor and once they become an actor, they dont go to college. and parents really wants their kid to go to college and get a real job. but they dont do so. obviously, the parents would be upset. but will they eventually get over the fact their kids wont go to college?

and would the family get over it too?

Answer 1

It's NEVER to late to go to college.

My son had several sets backs, devastating car accident, marriage, children, but I continued to encourage him to continue, so that he would always have something to depend on.  

He was also very good at computer building, networking, and software.  I encouraged him to use some of his time to keep up with that as well (he's astounding with computers!).

He somehow managed to "fry all the fish he had in his pan" and I'm proud of him, what ever choices he made for his main path.

If you doubt that your parents are backing you all the way, then be kind and assertive in the same breath, and tell them that you want to follow this dream, and if it does not work, that you can always go to college later.

At a later time, you can still apply for Pell money to help with the expenses, and do classes at night.  Many before you have done just that.

Talk with your parents and help them to see that you are thinking about what they want for you, and you feel you are making the choice that is right for you...and assure them that you will keep college as an alternate selection.

^j^

Answer 2

Parents ALWAYS want the best for their children. Initially, they may not approve of some choices their children make. However, they will come around and ALWAYS ALWAYS love you.  

Answer 3

Of course or I did, I had to, my son choose not to go to college and he lucked out and is successful... now if you don't go to college and become a total failure and you're 50yo and living off everybody... they may throw it in your face a time or two.

As parents we do move on... sometimes it can be hard when you know your child didn't live up to their potential... it's may be hard to see your adult child doing without...a parent should never expect the child to live up to the parents expectation... even though I did express to my children what I wanted them to do as far as... good grades, work hard, law abiding and taking care of themselves.... I always knew I had to accept what ever turned out... so regardless... go live your life and they have to get over it... but don't expect them to be there when... what you choose to do didn't work out...hope this helps:-))))).

Answer 4

parents all ways want what is best for their kids

but some times it don,t all ways turn out like that

and for most parents it makes them feel really bad

and for most no they don,t get over it .but they do the best they can for their kids growing up. i think the most importent thing to give their kids is love and surport and be there for them and for the child getting over the fact the parent couldn,t do what they said they were going to do .well i would say yes they well  get over it because they should look what they have done for them growing up gave them love ,surport, roof over their head ,food and being there for them in the time of need

when we get older it is up to use how we live our life or how it turns out  they did the best they could  

Answer 5

Not finishing formal education is a really worrying problem for parents because they fear for their child's future. They know they will not always be there to support them if they need it.

If the child makes a success of their chosen career then parents will still worry - because if that career fails for whatever reason then the child will have no back-up skills to fall back on and will be too old to get back into education/retraining. This means the child would/could face a life full of hardship & poverty. No parent wants that for their children.

A lot of kids get really sick of school/college and can't see the point in it all (I was one of those too!). With a bit of luck they all get past it, work well & their educational success helps them to get to where they want to get to quicker than they otherwise would do.

I hope this helps. With Best Wishes for now & your future from UK

Answer 6

yea as a parent my oldest was going to college, then dropped out..i was worried about her and a little upset but it turned out for the best cause she got married and i have a beautiful grandson..

yes parents dont hold a grudge cause our kids dont do as we think they should but its their lives..we just make sure we are there if they need help