Do people believe you when you tell them you're adopted?

Question

I'm adopted, and whenever i tell my friends or whoever they always say, "you're joking." or "no you aren't". not in a mean way. i have to keep telling them, and finally they will believe me. and then they'll act all sad like i've had a tragic life. but i was adopted as an infant, and i feel like my adoptive parents are my real parents. does this ever happen to you?

Answer 1

My dad was part of the "Stolen Generation" where aboriginal babies were stolen and given to people like property....

People dont believe him half the time... and he met his 7 birth brothers/sisters but said he felt no "connection" they just looked alot like him.... sad really...

Answer 2

to be adopted, covers a time be fore you, love the people that want you. my oldest still don't know, he's 35 now. ----why.

Answer 3

I'm not adopted - but I have a funny story about that.  My parents adopted two of my little brothers when I was four, and the boys were 3 & 2.  They then had another baby only a few months later (they were pregnant before they adoption had gone through, but not before they'd started the paperwork).  My adopted brothers were biological siblings of eachother, but (obviously) not me, and were not in any way biologically related to us.  Yet still, when we were young and my parents would take us out places, we'd get comments about how we all looked so much alike - or more particularly, about how we all looked so much like my dad.  In fact, a few times people even asked my mom if we were her step-kids since it seemed unreal to someone that a woman with brown hair and dark brown eyes would have four blue eyed fair haired children.  (On a side note:  She DID end up having 4 biological blue eyed fair haired children - though in all of us our hair has darkened as we got older, but our eyes are still blue).  

Anyway, one of my adopted brothers really did look so much like my dad in his childhood photos that it was uncanny.  It's almost like God knew the boys would end up with us, and gave them a few extra genes to help out.  

Even though I don't think we all look that much alike, my co-workers still comment on how much family resemblance there is in family pictures I have up at the office.  If we ever get into more in-depth discussions about family and childhoods, they're always shocked when they find out my brothers are adopted...  it's constantly, "You've got to be kidding - they look SO much like you."

Answer 4

Great question and nice to see something different in here for once.

You must resemble your parents. I think you are right that they don't say it in a mean way. I'm like Kenya. I always wanted my parents to just admit I was adopted, even though they swear I wasn't.

When I adopted my little girl, there was no intention of her looking like me, she just does. Green eyes, same coloring, same hair, etc., except luckily for her height. I couldn't keep a count of how many Russians didn't believe she was adopted. The workers in the orphanage couldn't get over our resemblance. In the horrible town we live in, there are many who just presume I either had her out of wedlock or she's from a " very tall donor". Just the usual small-town cruel gossip and slander. They have no idea actually how flattering it is and would croak if they did.

Answer 5

When I tell people, I think I receive both kinds of responses: "Really? That's cool." or "No way!" Lol

Being adopted is nothing tragic. I was an "accident" born out of wed-lock in South Korea. I was blessed that my biological mother didn't abort me. My adoptive parents are the whitest people you'd probably meet, save they don't have any southern accent. Lol Being adopted is special and nothing tragic, unless your adoptive parents are mean and abusive, but that's not the point here....

Answer 6

I keep telling my parents that I'm adopted but they refuse to believe it. So stubborn.

Answer 7

i use to get the same when i was younger but know i have photo to show them of my birth family, so the helps.

but my birth mother did the right thing by adopting me because i have had a much better live with my parents who raised me

Answer 8

yes, i get it alot. but i joke about everything, so its really not their fault. they simply think its another one of my off the wall jokes.

i find it amusing when the reality finally sinks in. the look on their face is priceless. they usually dont know what to say. i let them stammer a bit and then tell them its ok, i dont have a problem with it neither should they.

Answer 9

I get WOW NO WAY REALLY Oh Wow So cool How do you feel about that and have you found your birth mother !!!!!!!

Answer 10

Not when they hear the whole story.

But being the only on in my "family" they believe that I'm adopted.

Answer 11

I’ve never had that problem being a mulatto adopted into a white family. I’ve never meet anyone who showed me pity due to be adopted, not yet at least.  So far its just “cool” or they feel I have had a unique experience being an adoptee.  I know what you mean about feeling like your adoptive parents are your real parents. I feel the same way my parents are my real parents in every way but genetics. Sometimes I even forget I’m even adopted.

Answer 12

LOL, the one thing that really cracked me up was when I heard "You're adopted?  you look like you came from a good  home!"

The things people say, eh

Answer 13

hmmm I used to get that reaction when i was in grade school k-8th usually LOL. for some reason kids have a hard time getting there head around it. I was adopted at birth so t's second nature to me. But now that I'm older people usually believe me. some kids when I was growing up didnt even know what adoption was! lol. oh well good luck convincing your friends tell them to ask your parents if they don't believe you.

Answer 14

Most people believe me because I don't look like my family but a lot of people still kind of stare like "wow" and then ask a lot of questions about what it's like.  The funniest thing that ever happened was about a year ago, I was at a party with my little sister (my aparents biological child) and there was a guy who had the same last name as us.  He found out that I didn't like cheese or something silly like that and he said, "You don't like cheese? You can't be a real Smith, you must be adopted or something" and I said "Actually, I am adopted."  He turned like 8 shades of red and started stammering.  My sister and I were laughing because we thought the whole thing was kinda funny and we told him it was okay but he just took off.  He told his girlfriend that he was embarrased and felt stupid and even though we have told him, through his girlfriend and other people that it's fine, he still gets uncomfortable around me and hasn't really talked to me since.  Maybe I am the first adopted person he has met. I bet he will be more careful in the future!  :)

Answer 15

I usually believe them...unless I know that they are a compulsive liar, then I don't believe them.