Do people really want me to go away...or sometimes I get the feeling that they want me?

Question

to break my neck chasing them around? I sort of think of myself as the ego booster b/c ppl know I'll do it, but I've changed and they haven't contacted me. I don't smother ppl. I rarely contact anyone b/c I'm really quiet & reserved but when I do, I have to put up with a lot of stuff to see ppl or talk to them. What do you think?

Answer 1

Sometimes your interest and other peoples interest aren't the same. And thats very good. You don't want to hang around the wrong crowd. You have to find people that share your same interest and or hobbies.

Do not try to force friendships. That is what chases people away. Be nice if someone says hi and talks a little with you, but don't assume that just because they talk with you that they want to be your friend for life. And don't try to hold them down to listening to your long conversations. Do not complain to others that you don't have friends. That is a bad signal to send espeically if you are trying to make friends.

When I was young I went through the same thing. I simply decided to not be chasing friendships around. But I didn't do what you are doing. Which is being an ego booster. If my friends didn't like me the way I was, I wasn't going to change for them. This is very important to know for later on in life.

I learned that having friends is really not that important. I get plenty of people to talk with at work. And at work I treat the people there as friends, but only because its work related. You don't want to get too involved with people because then they start giving too many opinions.

Answer 2

Thats life.

Suck it up.

Answer 3

Wow.  Interesting.  I have a friend that (most of us) lean on, ask a lot of advice and guidance, and she is always there to offer it and offer the "bright side" of things.  The difference between me and my friends is that I don't just contact her for advice, I'm there to lend it as well, and just be there every day as a friend.

You should surround yourself with people who value you as not just a "counselor or ego booster", but as a friend that they can share their joys and pains with, as well as be there to lift you up as well.

Answer 4

You are overthinking things.  Just relax and be yourself.  Some people are going to love you and others wont.