Do people secretly not want their friends to be successful?

Question

I find it interesting that seemingly, people do not wish to share their secrets of success with their friends....

Why do people make sure everyone knows about their sudden success yet are suddenly very secretive about how they got there when asked?

It can be in any arena, from where to buy real estate, to how to find a manufacturer to make a product up for you.

I have been wanting to start a business of my own for a little while now and have a friend who has recently done this (although in a completey different area). I asked her a few general questions regarding tips for getting started, and how to organise a patent, but did not get any info from her.... It seemed obvious she did not want to give me any advice.

Are human's just basically competitive in this regard? Do we secretly not want our friends/ family to succeed (beyond our own success)?

Answer 1

i think its not that you dont want them to be succesful, but more that you want to be more succesful than them... like if your more succesful then the others around us it makes you feel good about yourself and like you have really achieved something and thats a great feeling so yea...

Answer 2

I find I've been a lot happier about friends' success and more willing to help once I became successful myself. I think the jealous types are the ones who feel like failures and they don't want to see other people doing better then them.

Answer 3

Generally people do not wish for other wish to have more or better than they have.  It takes a person of great intergrity and self-assurance to be happy for others.

On the other hand, it does make life much more comfortable once one realizes that someone will always have more, have better and be thinner, prettier, etc.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, there's always the subconscious and emotional side telling you that you don't even when it conflicts with your conscious wishes for well-being for friends.

Answer 5

i think that we do not want our friend s to be better than us ...BASICALLY

cus friends are always competetive...

trust me --'

wen i was in yr5 a long time ago this girl, my friend got really high scores for her tests but wen we had to do projects and stuff..i always got higher marks than her...

i did not want to tell her how i don it so good......

but

after that she suspected that my parents and sisters were doing it for me...

not a good thing to keep things like this away from one another...

might end up having a very bad freindship