Do people think worse of you than you expected?

Question

As inferior as I feel - i usually overestimate the impression I make. Is it possible to always find you fall short in the other's eyes....to the point where you feel even worse about yourself?

Answer 1

I don't care very much what people think. And you don't need to either. You are just fine.  

Answer 2

A lot of people, including myself, feel the same way that you do for various reasons and to different measures.  For me, I feel lonely, like I don't fit in, like everybody has somebody, like everyone else is better looking or happier or more successful, like I have nothing to add to a conversation.  The truth is, everyone has problems and feelings of inadequacy at times.  Some people deal with this better than others.  Those people have self-esteem, an elusive yet desirable quality.  Some people can have too much self-esteem.  They're known as jerks.  For whatever reason you feel bad about yourself.  No one can give you an answer in this forum that will make everything better.  However, here are some suggestions:  determine what does make you feel good about yourself, and dwell on that; don't compare yourself to others because there's always going to be someone better somewhere, find a trusted friend to talk to, talk to a religious leader who may help you spiritually (guilt can seriously damage your self-esteem), go see an MD, go see a therapist.  If there's something in your life that you can with certainty identify is damaging you, take steps to eliminate that negativity from your life.  I am doing all of the above.  You say you overestimate the impression you make, so at least you recognize that truth.  Most people are more concerned with themselves rather than what your goof-up may be.  One other thing:  reading a book about self esteem or whatever doesn't really seem to help.  Get rid of what makes you feel bad and put yourself in positive situations where you can make small successes.  Once you've gained a bit of self confidence, maybe you can take greater risks.

Answer 3

no. i don't think most people think much of others. most people are pretty self-involved and don't notice others too much. if people are judgmental you shouldn't worry about it because they're probably jerks.

Answer 4

You should not botter yourself with what others think of you.

There will always be someone who won't like you or juge you...but deep down, are they any better!? What you should focus on is: How do you feel about yourself? Let others do or think whatever they want, and don't let them make you feel inferior...don't give them the glory of having that power over you!!

Unfortunetely, in our day and time, it seems all that people do is juge others...I personnaly think it's the only way they can feel good about themselves (by putting others down)...And heck, if all they have to do in their lives is to juge and talk about others, there own lives must be pretty pathetic, don't you think!!LOL

Honestly, you need to find yourself and concentrate on your qualities...boost your self-esteem and don't give a hoot about what others say!! I know it's hard but, you are your own best friend!! Love and accept yourself!!;)