It's ridiculous how many PAP's come on this site who don't think they need to terminate the first father's rights. Or, the first mom's who want to lie about who the father is, or act like they don't know who he is.
My son's first mom gave us a false name. We terminated his rights. About 2 weeks before the adoption, people started threatening to tell the father. She eventually realized that she needed to give us the real name. She did, but then it took another 3 months for us to be able to adopt him. We had to hire a PI to track him down, and serve him papers. During this 3 months, his maternal grandmother tried to make a case to get our son as well. Then, the judge was upset because of already terminating the rights of someone wh didn't exist, so he was real strict on our adoption. He gave the first father an extra 30 days to contest the adoption AFTER he terminated his rights. It made no sense. It turned out ok but I sure wish we would have done things right in the first place.
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