Do shy guys "shy up" again?

Question

This shy guy and I have been spending time this summer and has shown signs that he's possibly interest. We would play it by ear and see each other almost every week... sometimes more than once a week. We've gotten close...

Lately, his schedule's been different and he's been working evening (graveyard hrs) now. He hasn't text as much bc i understand he's been busy and tired. (did earlier this week). I texted him today asking how work was and he said he was off and asked to go eat. When i saw him today, he said he hasn't been getting sleep and just tired. I told him about my plans for next week and ask if he would join and said (in dismay) his schedule - how he has the same schedule and how the "graveyard" thing is for 2 wks and he switches off b/c their old boss left. (which i believe).

He's usually more "outgoing" and tends to make "more moves" or is himself when we're alone. (in his room watching movies or family guy). Since we went out to eat, we were just chill.

Did he lost interest? Or maybe it was hard to have our closeness/serious talks b/c i haven't seen him in a little over a week?

Answer 1

It could very well be his job on the graveyard shift.  I remember the couple of years that I had a horrible "relief" shift - 3 day shifts and 2 graveyard shifts each week!  Talk about being tired and not being able to socialize with anyone!  Yikes!!

Perhaps, if you are in the same locale to each other, you may want to consider asking if he wants to get together at his off time?  If you know he works graves, for example, how about meeting up with him around mid morning, after he gets a few hours of sleep?  Maybe tell him that if he wants that massage, then he better call back as soon as he is up from his sleep!  It would get MY attention, for sure!

Answer 2

I think he is just tired and exhausted because of his work schedule. It's hard to have a social life when you are sleeping when everyone else is awake. Is it a relationship you are seeking? Are you willing to give him some space? Can you understand and accept that he is not himself due to tiredness, sleep deprivation and working/staying awake when his body wants to sleep. I think he likes you and wants to get together, but his mind is just not into it. I hope you give him a break.

Answer 3

":( Avoiding me???"

so you are sad, if any case he avoids you.

So you love him, simply accept him as he is.. and tell him all your dreams with lot of love & affection & laughs. He will do all of them for you.

If his age is more than 3 years then yours.. its tough for you to change him (Even on small issue).

Same age group, slowly he will change for your smile:)