Do siblings play with eachother? are there mainly rivaries?

Question

My sis, my brother and I never play with one another, the older ones always think the younger one will holding them up.

My husband said it too, there's 7children in their family, and they hated to play with one another or to be seen with eachother.

We were planing to have another child besides my son, because this reason, we're thinking we should just go with one, what made you and your spouse wants to have a second?

Answer 1

I would never want to be an only chile... sure I fight with my sibblings but we hang out all the time... we are like best friends

Answer 2

It really just depends on the bond and relationships that are created. My good friend is the youngest of 10 siblings (shes 19years old). They all remain very close, have football games with each other visit and fight (thats a givin) the older ones arent as close with the younger ones because there is such a huge age gap but are still very close. My two older sisters and I fight often but we get along...it goes both ways. Usually the closer in age they are the closer they become. They will be fine.

Answer 3

Each family is different...just like every child is different.  My oldest brother and I are fifteen months apart...he and our sister are fifteen months apart...we played together, fought together, loved and hated each other.  One day, we all played together and got along...the next day, the girls may have been best friends and not liked the brother...next week, we may all hate each other and fight non-stop...something new every day.  

I too wanted to only have one child, after losing our firstborn.  It was too hard to even fathom being pregnant again after having such a difficult pregnancy and then the loss of the child.  God blessed me with a pregnancy that I didn't know about until 3 months before he was born.  Looking back, I don't know what we'd have ever done without having #3.  He completed our family...he brought even more love and laughter into our home...and in the words of #2, Mama, he's mean sometimes, but I love him and I'm glad he's my brother!

There will be times when they'll fight from the time their feet hit the floor, but then when another hurts the other, they'll fight tooth and nail for each other.  Trust me, Darlin', it's worth it!  I know people with one child and they're ALWAYS spoiled, hateful, they cast blame to get out of trouble, they lie to get their way...I wouldn't ever do that to my child.  Nor would I want to be an only child.  Having a sibling teaches you to share...

Ie:  Hubby's father was an only child and his wife will tell you that he's stingy.  He passed away a month ago, and until the day he died, he hoarded things away and wouldn't share...guess he didn't know he wouldn't take any of it with him.  She came from a big family, and she said that it was very difficult at times due to the fact that he was so stingy.  He admitted it...he said, I worked hard for it, it's mine, get your own!  Pretty miserable existence in my opinion, but ot each his own!

Just a suggestion...if your child is old enough, ask their opinion.  My nephew is an only child and he'll tell you quick that he wishes that his mother had been able to give him a brother or sister.  They get lonely...having a sibling gives you a free playmate.  You can play with them or ignore them...either way, they're still there when you need em.  I wouldn't take anything for my 2 brothers and 1 sister.  Another thought:  My baby brother is 11 years younger than I am, 10 younger than older bro, and 9 younger than sis...by the time he was in his teens, he was an uncle.  He was always lonely, because we were all married and away from home.  He was always 'boring,' as he'd tell us, and wished that he'd been a twin so that he'd have had a sibling/friend.

Again, God bless you and your decision.

EDIT:  My sister is my best friend IN the world.  My brothers and I are VERY close...my baby brother's babies are my 'grandbabies.'  I don't have many friends at all...my siblings are my bestest friends!  I wouldn't take anything in the world for either three of them!  We're so close that all our kids are like brothers.

Answer 4

i was one of six, we were never close, my husband was one of ten, and they all are best friends, so it is all how you are raised, now we have three children and yes they do fight sometimes, but they can't live without one another, they do love each other, we raise them as equals, no privileges for being younger or order, no one is better then other, no nonusers like she is my little girl and he is yours, parents are responsible for most rivalries  with the children,  and it is a lonely world out there, to think down the road for a single child that ,, all i got is me.. situation,, good luck , and God Bless, have another one

Answer 5

it seems to me that siblings get along better if they're quite a bit separated in age... less competition that way. I'd say 3 to 4 years apart is about right (that way they won't end up in middle school together).

Answer 6

My mom wanted to kids so that we would always have a companion.

Yes, we fight on occasion, but 90% of the time we get along well. My sister is only 2 years younger than I am, so we are close enough in age that we have a lot in common, but on the other hand, we are far enough apart that we aren't constantly competing.

My sister is one of my best friends, and I can't imagine being without her. We hang out all the time, and she is amazing. I'm proud to have her as my sister.

Sometimes siblings fight, but usually when it comes right down to it, they love each other, and would do anything for each other.

Answer 7

My sister and two brothers fought all the time ( although my younger brother  and I were close) We grew very distant from each other as the years went by and hardly see each other now.

I have one child who is happy and well rounded................. I never wanted a second one.

Answer 8

I fought constantly with my brother growing up.  But my kids, though they certainly have occasional moments of conflict, play wonderfully together -- particularly my two oldest and two youngest, who are each two years apart from one another (the others also get along but have less in common with each other so don't play together as much).   It's like a constant playdate around here even if another kid isn't over to play.  IUndoubtedly they all get somewhat less of my attention, but to see them laughing and playing together makes me sure that they've more than made up for it in what they get from one another.

I love the dynamic of a big family, and my kids seem to, too.  I wouldn't trade it for anything!

Answer 9

my daughter is 5 and my son 2 they adore each other they always play with each other ive seen my soon cry when he carnt play with my daughters dolls and dolls house , we had a leak in my sons room a pipe burst and he had to share with my daughter now we carnt get him out we tried putting back in his own room but he went histerical so we put him back with his sister and bought them bunkbeds they both think its great they both share there toys and my daughter if she knows my son is having a bath shes gets in