Do sick people get paranoid and blame others for anything that makes them sad????

Question

my bf and i have been in a long distance relationship for a while but he's been sick ill the whole time but din dare to inform his family atall but me. i was online talking to his cousin once and so asked him to go check up on him... he went ahead to ask his mum(who had no idea) abt the whole thing.. having heard from what his cousin said, she collapsed and got seriously ill..(head injuries).. the docs said she wd need a surgery.. which she later had but didnt go well.. later she went into a coma for a couple of days and then passed away. now my bf defines me as a killer and threatens me... saying i will pay for all this... was it my fault asking his cousin to check up on him??

Answer 1

Are you kidding?  This story is difficult to believe!  It is absolutely not your fault.  You don't have control over anyone but yourself.  Your bf sounds like he is struggling with the loss of his mother.  For some reason, I think people who are in his shoes find some solace in having someone to blame.  Good luck.  BTW - I don't think you should tolerate him threatening you and calling you names.  Sounds like a good time to extricate yourself from this relationship as it could get volatile.  

Answer 2

He trusted you. But you proved you ar enot trustworthy. Even the doctor who examined him does not have the rights to reveals his health history , for which he can be jailed.  He knew that it will affect his mother as she is very sensitive and that why he had a valuable reason for hding this fact. Obviously he will leave you soon.God bless him and his mother's soul may rest in peace.

Answer 3

dump the guy

that is seriously messed up

Answer 4

no defeniately this is not your fault there is nothing wrong with get someone to checkup on someone, this shows that you care why should you be blamed for caring ? i do that with my friend if she is depressed if i cant for whatever get her at the time and the closest pple are avilible i get paraniod i don't blame people.  

Answer 5

He is in shocked state, he should have blamed you cousin but he did not as he is not emotionally stable.

What is the problem with you bf listening to that his mom fainted, must be something serious so take his care first.

Do not defend as your efforts would go waste.somebody in that anger would not care for what you did was for

his sake. Give him sometime. Keep taking his care till he is alright, serve selflessly.

He should feel that you were not wrong and on that day both of you will be happy.

but if he doesnot feel so.. , I will say one thing

do not feel bad about this, you will have to try to be independent both financially, socially and emotionally as your

relationship with him may cause pain to you.

He may blame you for her moms death throughout your life and you may not have mental peace.

I just wanted to tell you what may happen though i do not want that painful thing to happen to anybody.