Do some women have this view about men?

Question

Do some women hold the view that men are jerks and so being a jerk is part of being a man and so a man who is not a jerk isn’t manly enough for them to be attracted to? Is this why women like certain men that seem to be completely unlikable?

Answer 1

When I was younger I felt more attractive if a jerk was interested in me. I guess because it took more to attract them (boy was I the jerk in those cases). I do think there is some truth to the idea that we think of jerks as being more assertive, confident thus more manly but most of us outgrow the notion once we've been hurt by them.

Answer 2

I don't have that view at all, being a "jerk" as you put it is not a masculine trait, women can be "jerks" too, although

the term for women like that is b***h.

I don't know why a lot of women are attracted to men like that.

Answer 3

women don't like men no matter what,if we are not jerks they hate us if we are jerks they hate us,so they hate us no matter what.

Answer 4

Hmm...jerk chicken...

To answer your question, yes.  Some women think this way.  Some women feel that they have to make excuses for men's behavior "His mom didn't love him/his father wasn't there/he threw me down the stairs for burning the rice/he only beats me on Thursdays", etc.

It's pretty sad.

Answer 5

Maybe some do. If women like jerks it is usually rooted in their upbringing, the relationship of the parents or how parents treated them that have the most affect on such views. It is not a default stance and many women are not looking for jerks at all.

Answer 6

Luckily for the jerks this is often true and I think it works well for many women too. If you are attractive in some way e.g. rich or beautiful you can get away with a lot of bad behaviour.

Answer 7

It is totally possible for a man to be manly and not a jerk. I would rather be with nobody than a "manly" jerk. It's true that sometimes immature jerks may appear attractive, but that won't get them anything except a superficial hookup once in a while and a couple girls saying, "He's hot."

A lot of times women will like seemingly unlikeable men just because of how much the men like them. Women are easily won over by flattering, so they will only base their opinion of a man on how he treats her, not how he treats others.

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

I certainly don't.  I think the reason why women are attracted to men who act like dbs is that they think they can fix them somehow.

Answer 9

yeah, I think so. A lot of women will tolerate cheating because they think all men cheat. So they think it's better to deal with cheating than be alone.

Answer 10

I expect some women do.

Just like some men may associate being ditzy and materialistic with being a woman and so date that sort and are invariably discontented and disgruntled.

Answer 11

I'm sure some do in the same way that some men view women as gold digging wenches.

Answer 12

Possibly.

The whole fall for jerks thing is not really about that. It's more to do with immaturity and daddy issues and stuff like that.

Answer 13

I don't, but some women/girls might when they are younger.  Experience with this type of guy is enough to change your mind and make you see the light.