Do think it's right for my wife to want and make me stay home when she goes to family events or visits?

Question

my wife's brother hates my guts because i had him arrested for harassment. i had good reason. this really bothers me because it makes me feel like she don,t care about me. it makes me feel like she's putting her family first.

Answer 1

some times it is hard to cut family relations ..so it is her right to be with them..and it is ur right too to decide whether u want to go with her or not...it is back to u

Answer 2

h**l no! I am not a massive fan of my inlaws and my partner respects that. He doesn't go to many family events cause he knosw they treat me like ****. You did what you needed to do and you know as in my situation, sometimes its the siblings who can't stand the fact you have "stolen" their sibling. Its stupid, they don't look and see the fact that you make them happy.

Answer 3

Yah it ought to bother you.   Her brother needs to get over it.  If the family hates you so bad they dont want you around she ought to stick up for you by saying hey you have to accept him as well.  Sounds like theyve got some issues over there man.

Answer 4

I don't think that's right. If you are both grown men, she should trust you two can be in the same room together without making a scene. She has to realize that you are now her family too, and your feelings matter too.  

Answer 5

That's pretty crappy.  When she married you, you became her family, and she should put you first.

Answer 6

yaaa man you got it made why do you want to go to that c**p i be t if she made you go you would be mad to lol think posative your free to do what you want when she leaves man you got it made

Answer 7

that not right she shouldn't make you stay at home just because you don't get along with her brother. if she truly love u she would put u first. so talk to her tell her how u  feel, and tell her she should put u first, an u are going.

Answer 8

she does not make you

you willingly stay home

you can go with her

and just ignore the bad vibes coming from you brother in law

or you can stay home and complain about it

she is putting her family first

which does not say much about your marriage

you have to look and see how strong it is

Answer 9

Well why do you want to go,It's only going to be drama.but I show anyway if you think you should be there.She's your wife.there no place she can go that you can't.To me if you like drama go.

Answer 10

I think its wrong! My husband and I both make it a point to always put each other first. She may not be doing it on purpose, but by leaving you out she's saying their feelings are more important than yours. Have you told her how much it bothers you? If not, she may honestly not realize it bothers you.

Answer 11

Perhaps she is just trying to keep the peace.  Perhaps she was told by her family that you are not allowed  at their events.  Nobody knows but her.  You should ask her why she doesn't let you come to family events.

Answer 12

You sound pretty ghetto. I mean, you're not embarrassed to get on a computer and say "she don,t care"? Well ah doesn't knows dat be da case!

And, uh- your name is JULIE.

Answer 13

I do not think that it's right for your wife to make you stay home when there are family events and visits taking place. Family is very important and should be a priority. But, she must understand that when the both of you said "I do" you joined one another's families. So, no that's not right because you are apart of that family as well.

Answer 14

Sounds like she doesn't want to cause trouble especially since you've already had problems with them. Talk to her about this, that's the only way you'll know for certain.