Do u think being a single parent is better than having someone else helping u rising your kids with u?

Question

why i say that because maybe u can undersatnad your kids better and they will know that u are the only one that is rising him and caring for them or do u think having a partner is better, but what if your kids like your partner better than u, how would respond and act, let say your kids like to hang out with your husband rather than u?

Answer 1

If the kid like the father better, there is nothing wrong in it.

You love them more and care for them, they will love you too.

Answer 2

I think 2 parents are better but many single parents are doing a wonderful job. the child will need a role model even if its not the parent. maybe an uncle.

The kids like doing some  things with me-different things with their dad. sometimes they want me. sometimes they want their dad, thats normal. They love us both.

Answer 3

I am a single parent and I wish I had someone else to help out. My son loves both his father & me equally (he's 5) even though he doesn't see his father.

Answer 4

It really depends on the partner. I don't agree that "mom and dad" is always best. There are many children out there that would be SO MUCH BETTER OFF with a single parent, due to the situation that they're in.

What a kid needs, more than anything else in this whole world, is as much affection as you're capable of, as well as guidance, and the rest will fall into place.

In terms of your kid liking your husband better- kids are funny that way. They may love you one month, and the next month, you're persona non grata, and they love dad more. It's just how they are. It depends on the way you both disipline, if one of you likes to spoil more, ect.

But putting that aside, who cares if your child likes one of you more? What's important is that YOU love the kid, and the kid respects you both. Parenting is never going to be about how much you are liked.

Answer 5

I think that having someone help you would be better IF you think it's the person your meant to be with and your kids enjoy this person and you can make a blended family. I have a blended family as my husband has 2 great kids that adore both of us. It helps his little girl to have someone to help her with girl issues but also just for mommy things like shopping makeup and hair. Be careful you find someone who loves your kids and wants to be a part of your family. I also come from a blended family and have a stepmom. She was always jealous of me and my relationship with my dad and was insecure. Her children were raised and she didn't want to have to do it over. Why did she marry my dad? My dad and I would have been better without her in my opinion. Blended families are not easy though and it takes constant work.

Answer 6

Children need 2 parents.  Boys need a mother so they have respect for women, and they need a father to teach them to be strong.

girls need mothers to help them deal with puberty, and they need fathers to keep them from turning into s***s

Being a parent isn't about you, so it shouldn't matter if you're not the favorite.  Having a child is selfless, and its about the child, not you anymore.  Children need 2 parents

Answer 7

To define who's gonna love who the most is almost nutty...Usually, girls bond with dads the most....boys bond with moms the most and scoo boos of aunts and uncles are loved as well....Children grow into a more secure teens and adults when they are surrounded by loving parents.....Saying that...some children grow up into one parent homes. Most of the time the one parent home still have the leverage of having the child to become stable with the male or female figure due to grandparents ...aunts uncles...It takes a village to raise a child. Lets hope jealously of who loves who the most is just a scenero for your post and not real life...the childs mental health will be the one that pays....

Answer 8

Well I am not a single parent right now, but my son is due in about 6 1/2 weeks.  However my parents got divorced when I was 6 so my mom has been raising my brother and I pretty much on her own since then.  Looking at my mom, she was a stay at home mother (her and my father decided it would be best for her to give up her teaching career and stay home with us), when they split she had no idea what she was going to do.  Her degree was pretty much no longer any good because she hadn't had much experience so she had to train for a whole new career.  She got a receptionist job during the day while we were at school and went to night school at night, her degree took her 2 years to obtain.  She had to find a baby sitter for us during the evenings and if we were ever sick she would have to not go into work and stay home with us.  Personally I have no idea how she did it, but my mother is the one person I am most proud of.  No matter how hard it got she never gave up, and no matter how many times she wanted to just drop everything and leave, she didn't.  If I am half of the mother my mom is I will be so blessed and so will my son!  I think children of single parents have more respect for their parents (when they get old enough to understand), because they have to do so much more!  But I would rather not be a single parent because I am guessing it is one of the hardest things ever!

Answer 9

My kids are 18 (girl) and 21 (boy).  I raised them on my own from 3 & 6.  It's better for the kids to have 2 parents.  However, I did not fall in love again, and never "settled" because I never found anyone I would trust 100% to raise my kids.  If you are "hanging out and connecting with your mom's husband...  I would see that as kinda scary..

Answer 10

2 good parents is ideal! If a person is in a situation where one is damaging to the child then by all means, the little one is better with one good parent than one good and one bad one in the same house.

Answer 11

I have found that being a single mom is better than being in a marriage where we can't agree on anything and constantly can't get alone.  I find that being single is better than having a father around that isn't really around, as in doesn't really do anything to help out anyways.