Do u think i am over reacting

Question

my boyfriend wants to smoke to deal with his stress, um i don't want him too, cause he has health problems as it is, and i told him that if he is going to do it that we aren't going to be together anymore. Which i don't want to do cause i love him, am i over reacting

Answer 1

  You're not over reacting. As a non-smoker, I don't blame you. With health problems, he shouldn't be smoking,either.

  Tell him second hand smoke is dangerous too, and cig. smoke contains carbon dioxide.

  Smoking makes stress worse.

Answer 2

Smoking is a personal choice.  You disagree with it.  He doesn't, Love conquers all.  look over it.  

Answer 3

make sure he doesnt smoke. its horible.

Answer 4

not really. but instead of just threatening him you should offer other ways to help him deal with his stress.

Answer 5

no i do not think that you are over reacting.  If he hasnt smoked before why start smoking now?  And if he health problems...well it makes no sense.  You need to sit down and talk to him and tell him that you are just  concerned for him and that you do not want to kiss an ash tray. and com eto think of it this is your health too..he needs to consider that.

Answer 6

no its normal that you dont him to smoke.

Answer 7

Yes.  You could make him shower and brush his teeth.  You should not make threats that you are not following through on.  Like breaking up which you don't want.

Answer 8

You love him of course you don't want him to smoke. But how are you strengthen your relationship by threatening to leave? Hes not going to stop until he wants to stop. You can boss him around all you want. He may or may not do what you tell him. No one can tell anyone what the other has to want or feel. that's crazy

Answer 9

You are not necessarily over reacting, but the question is Can you follow through with your threat?  From your question it doesn't sound like you can or that you want to.  That isn't a way to get what you want.  I agree with giving him other ways to deal with his stress.