Do we tie the knot or no?

Question

my boyfriend just joined the army and i wanted to know if we have to be married for me to go live with him whenever he gets stationed?

even though we have only been dating for a little while, we have known each other for years and we do love each other.

so here is the other question, if you have to be married, do you think i should?

Answer 1

Well if you love him and were planning on marrying him anyway -then why not -you just doing it a little earlier than planned.

Answer 2

Yeah defo if you love him and want to be with him why not? and if your willing to move around for him then there is your answer you are in love..you only live once at the end of the day if it dosnt work out least you tryed whats the point in never knowing what would have been  

Answer 3

You don't have to be married to live near him, but as a single soldier he normally lives in the barracks.  For him to get an off-post housing  allowance (money to live downtown) or for on post housing, you must be married.  If you have to ask about whether or not to marry him, you have a problem.  That's a question that it takes two to answer.

Answer 4

If u love him & cannot be parted away from each other.U do not might giving up everything including yr career,away from parents '& closed friends....etc. then

go ahead!

Answer 5

I'm not getting the part about > If you have to be married >> why, are you pregnant with his baby?  And you probably don't want to go with him if he's stationed in hostile combat zone.   If he's stationed here in the states, you can go for married housing > nothing glamorous, but it's warm & dry.  

Personally, I'd wait > what's the rush?  

Answer 6

If you're not married: the military isn't going to pay for you to move with him. also,  until he's an E-5, he wont be able to live off base, he has to live in the barracks, and he wont receive BAH (housing allowance) and you wont be able to receive insurance through him, and you wont have access to the base or have any base privileges (commissary, px, anything). that means you can't even get on the base w/out him. so you can go with him, but you wont be living with him and it'll all be on your own dime.

  no, i don't think you should get married. i've seen sooooo many couples get divorced because they got married when the guy joined and they didn't want to be separated and thought they were in love. seriously, a ton of military marriages end because they really shouldn't have gotten married in the first place and rushed things. i would wait until he's been out there for at least 1 year, or a deployment before you decided if you want to marry. the distance will give you both an idea if you can handle a military marriage. if you haven't been apart for long periods of time, you have no idea how you'll react when he gets deployed, and you don't want to be married when you figure out that you don't actually want to be with a guy who lives for 15 months ever 2 years. the time and distance will either break your relationship or make it sooo much stronger. i would wait if i were you!!! plus, some guys change when they go in the military, and their girlfriends don't like it and they break up. just wait and give it time, and if it's meant to be, it'll happen.

Answer 7

the answer is in you sweetheart, talk to your boyfriend

Answer 8

have you 2 ever discussed marriage before? Are you ready for marriage? I wouldnt get married just because its the rules to live with him. what if down the road you decide it isnt working? then there is a long drawn out costly and stressful divorce, etc. its not worth making a mistake if you arent positive you want to marry him for him and not because you have to.

Answer 9

You have to be married. I have the same issue with my bf of 2 yrs I love him to death but that would mean me sacraficing my future for him. Once your an army wife forget about having a stable career , because he will be moved so much. Unless your a nurse or teacher.

Answer 10

If you want to live with him in on post housing, then yes you have to be married. If you don't want to be married, then you can live off post. But, if you are married, he will get more money for living expenses. If you aren't married, then he will get paid as a single soldier.

Answer 11

I do believe you have to be married. And If you really know this person and are really in love, then go for it. But by all means don't do it for lust or if you have any doubts.

Good luck!

Answer 12

To me that's the wrong reasons to get married.

If you need to ask, then no you shouldn't beacuse you are clearly unsure, you should know yourself a definate yes or no.

You would know if you want to get married, we can't tell you.

Answer 13

If you have to ask complete strangers if you should get married the answer is a giant h**l no.  

Answer 14

ya sure why not.

you get benefits that way, and if he dies, you get his money.